Wife or partner pregnant? Have no idea what to do now? Start with these 3 must-know first trimester tips for husbands and partners.
The first trimester has so many new challenges to tackle. It is easily the least favorite trimester of most moms between the hormones and morning (all day) sickness, but with these first trimester tips for husbands and partners, you’ll be able to start supporting her in the best ways possible.
First Trimester Tips for Husbands and Partners Tip #1: GET READY FOR MOOD SWINGS
Even if this pregnancy was long-awaited and planned, there are a lot of emotions that come up during the first trimester.
There’s the obvious culprit… hormones.
Mood swings are super common in the first trimester due to surges in estrogen and progesterone, which happens to be the same thing that causes morning sickness. Lovely, right?
Think of it like PMS on steroids. There are so many feels that are purely due to the chemicals coursing through a pregnant woman’s body.
Speaking from experience, she’ll be able to deal with it for the most part once accustomed to it, but be on the lookout. If you notice more mood swings than normal, know it’s probably just the hormones talking.
Plus, adjusting to the idea of motherhood.
It’s one thing to want to be a mom, and another to actually be becoming a mom.
Women have a bajillion different reactions to the fact that they are truly pregnant and have a human growing inside of them. Sometimes it’s blissful, and sometimes it’s not. Usually, it’s all and everything in between.
I’ve heard people say a woman becomes a mom when she finds out she’s pregnant, but a dad doesn’t become a dad until the baby is born. To some extent, I think that is true as a generality.
While the pregnancy will have some impact on the pregnant person’s partner, it just isn’t the same as the person actually going through all the physical and emotional changes. It takes a minute to adapt.
And then there’s the fear.
The biggest fear for most pregnant moms? Losing the baby.
During the first trimester is when miscarriage is most likely, which is why a lot of people wait to announce pregnancies. (Though telling some close friends/family might be a good idea in case support is needed.)
That first trimester is such a hard wait. Although miscarriages and stillbirths do happen after the first trimester, there’s this feeling of being “safe” once you get past that 12-week mark.
So just now that she is probably spending a lot of time worrying, even if it’s just a small thought in the back of her mind.
First Trimester Tips for Husbands and Partners Tip #2: DON’T COMMENT ON HER BODY
Most women won’t start “showing” before around 12-16 weeks, or the second trimester.
The uterus and baby bump hasn’t risen above the pelvis yet during the first trimester. So if your baby mama is starting to look a little bigger in the belly, it’s probably not actually a baby bump yet.
It can be a bit awkward as a mom to have people comment on how you’re showing if you know it isn’t really even a baby bump.
What could make her appear to be showing?
The not-so-sexy answer is probably bloating. Though there are other reasons someone might “show” a little earlier than 12 weeks, in my experience it’s really just bloating.
Besides bloating it is possible that she’s showing early because her due date is wrong, or maybe there are even multiple babies in there! (I had twins in my second pregnancy, and I looked really pregnant just two months in)
First Trimester Tips for Husbands and Partners Tip #3: HAVE MORNING SICKNESS REMEDIES ON HAND
Around 85% of women will get nausea and morning sickness during pregnancy. Though really it can be ALL DAY sickness.
The first trimester is SO FREAKING HARD for a lot of people. It’s just exhausting and emotionally draining to feel sick for 3 months straight.
For me, I end up having a delightful mix of nausea, acid reflux, exhaustion, and smell sensitivity. I kind of wanna puke just reminiscing about it.
So be proactive!
Have some remedies on hand, or at least in the back of your mind, and ready to go for when she needs something ASAP.
Check out this post where I lay out my top first trimester essentials, including the absolute BEST MORNING SICKNESS REMEDIES. Then let me which of these first trimester morning tips for husbands (and partners) was helpful in the comments.
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