How to Enjoy Being a Stay-at-Home Mom

How to Enjoy Being a Stay-at-Home Mom

For a lot of moms (and dads), being able to stay at home with the kids and ditch the 9-5 sounds like a fantasy. But once you’re actually at home with those kids 24/7, it can get a little monotonous (and chaotic) to say the least. It can be hard to actually enjoy it. So here are our 10 best tips on how to enjoy being a stay-at-home mom.

 

Every single day I spent away from my baby daughter while I commuted 1.5 hours each way to work I job I no longer cared for, I dreamed of being able to stay home with her. To have relaxed days of playtime, snacks, naps, and Mickey Mouse. The reality? It didn’t turn out exactly as I expected, and once I added brand new twins to the mix while also working part time from home, things got even more… complicated.

Some days were like a little slice of heaven, and other days had me seriously questioning my life choices… But over the years I’ve created a little toolbox of ways I don’t just deal with being a stay-at-home mom, but how to enjoy being a stay-at-home mom.

1. Go Hiking

I know, I know. You’re probably already exhausted, so the thought of loading kids into car seats and then either carrying them or chasing them around the woods seems… daunting… to say the least. 

But getting out into nature does wonders for your mental health (and physical health), according to Harvard Health. It literally changes the way your brain is firing when you get out into nature for 90 minutes or more. 

Now what I do with my kids is really more a calm nature walk than a hardcore hike. But we end up getting some awesome exercise, fresh air, sunlight, and a little dirty. The weeks we miss going on hikes I can really tell by my mood and their moods. (We are a hot mess without this time.)

If you are interested in hiking, but have no idea where to go or where to get started, check out Hike It Baby.

I love Hike It Baby! We go on hikes with other moms and kids we have found with this organization nearly every week. It’s not only awesome because it gets us out of the house, but it also means my kids (and me) get to make some friends! (which is the next tip)

2. Make Mom Friends

“It takes a village,” right? 

The problem is that so many of us our isolated from our village. We have no community. We live too far away from family, or we just moved somewhere new. Maybe all our old friends don’t have kids yet, and we feel left out. There are a million and one reasons we can feel alone as moms. But we don’t have to. 

When I first started thinking about trying to make friends with other moms I was a bit scared. To be honest, the narrative that has been told over and over again lately is that there is this little thing called Mommy Wars going on, and that moms are super mean to each other and not very inclusive. 

In reality? It’s not like that at all. (at least outside of the more toxic Facebook groups…)

Every single time I’ve met another mom in real life she has been super sweet, helpful, and no matter our differences, we had something to bond over. Ya know, that whole being in the trenches together thing really helps you connect. 

So check out local mom groups on Facebook or MeetUp. There are also new apps coming out all the time to help you connect, and like the above tip, Hike It Baby is awesome! You can also just start doing little things like talk to your neighbors or the mom you always see in Target the same day you tend to go. 

It might take a littel vulnerability to get started, but the payoff is so worth it!

 

3. Ask for Experiences and Membership 

Instead of physical gifts, like toys, we asked our family and friends to give our children experiential gifts if they wanted to give them birthday or Christmas gifts. We’ve become pretty committed to keeping our house un-cluttered to the best of our ability, given the fact that we have three kids.

Also, since none of our kids are in preschool, we want to get them out of the house and into the world as much as possible. An awesome side benefit of getting of the house is it’s super helpful for mama’s mental health too!

(You can only hear the hot dog song from Mickey Mouse Clubhouse so many times before your eyes start to twitch and you turn into Mad Queen Mommy.)

We ended up receiving a membership to a museum and zoo for the kids thanks to one of their grandmothers! So rarely does a week go by that we don’t make it out to one of them. 

Protip: pack lots of snacks and drinks. Food and beverages get super pricey at these places. I have a rule that the kids need to eat all the snacks we bring before they get any of the treats they have there, and sometimes they just don’t get any because we already blew the budget on other things that week.

 

What Do Moms Want for Mother’s Day? (This Mom Shares the Truth)

What Do Moms Want for Mother’s Day? (This Mom Shares the Truth)

Been wondering… what do moms wants for Mother’s Day? Some people are just sooo hard to buy for, and while this is just my personal opinion, I’m about to let you off the hook and clue you in on what moms want for Mother’s Day.

This might be shocking to some, so prepare to clutch your pearls ladies…

NOTHING.

 That’s it. Not a thing. (Except maybe for my husband to get up with the kids in the morning.)

I’m just not into getting all the things this year. Not even some of the things.

Let me explain…

Raise your hand if you’ve Marie Kondo’d your life recently, and maybe ended up manically standing over piles of stuff that just doesn’t bring you joy anymore?

Minimalism is the thing right now, not over-consumption (not more stuff for the sake of it), and my family is all aboard the minimal train for a plethora of reasons.

The biggest benefit of it though? I find that I am actually learning to appreciate and fully feel gratitude for what I DO have. 

For basically my entire marriage and motherhood so far, I’ve been in debt. While we technically have debt now in the form of a car payment and mortgage, we no longer have credit card debt. That’s ZERO credit card debt. 

Digging my family out of thousands of dollars in credit card debt took a lot time, much longer than it took to get into it, and being more diligent than I’ve ever been in my life with budgeting and spending. (Plus, the help of family, and cashing out some old investments I had sitting around.)

I was blessed with never having to worry about money for most of my life. I have been incredibly privileged. 

Then things changed when I was fired from my last full time jobAfter having my daughter, I just lost all interest in working. The problem was, I was the breadwinner in my family.

My husband was mostly a stay-at-home-dad, and I worked outside of the home. But doing that 1.5 hour commute each way every weekday was wearing on me. Finally I just couldn’t do it anymore and my performance on the job slipped to the point that they just let me go. 

Looking back, I am so happy it happened because we are finally on a path of abundance again. My husband works full time from home, and I blog and do social media work for clients. We somehow make it by, and it is still sometimes with the help of family who help me make sure my kids get all the fun extras like music lessons (thanks Mom!).

BUT – that initial period of having no full-time income coming in the door, and still needing to pay for all the things lead to a hefty credit card bill.

Also, if I’m being honest, we had some credit card debt even before I lost my job because I just sucked at not spending on useless or unneeded things. It is only through hindsight that I realize how many things I spent money on that at the time seemed so necessary, but in reality were worthless.

Things are different now though.

Besides getting rid of debt, I’ve been working hard to minimize our entire life and get rid of junk. (With my hubby’s help too!)

This minimizing even goes so far as to make our meal planning each week incredibly simple, easy, and kind of meager if I’m honest. We have all the necessities, are well fed on awesome organic food, and my kids have snacks, but we rarely have much leftover or extra. No throwing out unused foods. 

Instead of trying to cook something new every day or even every other day, we just have two main meals we cook each week.

We make a huge batch of grilled chicken breast and cut it up. Then we can just pull out some of it for on salads throughout the week. Besides the chicken, we just do one additional main meal that we back a big pot of and then eat throughout the week.

With those two meals plus things like yogurt, fruit, carrots, crackers with hummus, and other simple and easy snacks, we get by each week. 

So when a holiday or special occasion comes around that gives us a reason to prepare a big additional meal, it feels like a great indulgence!

That’s why the only thing I asked for this year for Mother’s Day was a ham dinner! (Ok technically I didn’t ask for NOTHING, but does food really count as a gift?)

A few years ago, a home cooked meal wouldn’t feel like it was indulgent or special. It was de rigueur. The norm. But since minimizing everything, even our diet, this special holiday dinner my hubby is cooking for me actually feels super abundant! It actually feels like a celebration instead of just another thing we have to check off our to-do list. 

And it isn’t just because we do a minimal meal plan each week. We also are super minimal about holidays too. For some, like Christmas, we go all out for the kids (and each other), but for others, like Easter, we didn’t do anything besides hide a few eggs filled with chocolate. For Easter, we didn’t even do anything different for our meal! We just had a meal we keep on rotation that everyone in the family loves, spaghetti and meatballs.

The me that existed a few years ago would have found it sad to think about not doing all the things for every single holiday or every single birthday. (For our kids’ birthdays we didn’t even have parties the last couple of years, but just cake and ice cream at home. Spoiler alert: they didn’t care!)

A bonus to minimizing everything beyond cost and time saving is also a huge decrease in stress!

No stressing over parties, shopping, cooking, cleaning, etc. Because ultimately what is best for me, my husband, my kids, and anyone we are friends or family with, is for us to not be going bananas trying to check even more boxes off of a to-do list that is already far too long.

Perhaps this is something that comes with life experience, getting older, or a big mix of stuff, but I’ve realized just how precious my life is. How precious the resources I have at my disposal are. I’ve realized that any and all the things could be taken away at any moment. 

So, while I’m not perfect at this, my ability to truly cultivate gratitude, and also the use a self-imposed form of scarcity to create abundance, has come from being focused on what is the most important to me. 

What’s most important thing, and what I really want or Mother’s Day, is simple and honestly kind of a trope or cliché.

I really just want to be with my family, and know that for now we are all well cared for and safe. 

My husband making me a good meal? That’s just icing on the proverbial cake.

I have always tried to search my brain for an idea on the perfect gift for my Mom, but she always says she doesn’t need anything and doesn’t want anything. I figure she’s just being modest or trying to not force her kids to spend money on her. But I’ve realized now that I’ve been a mom for a hot minute that maybe I should just take her at her word.

There is nothing that I truly need, or that I want my kids or even husband to really get me right now. I’d rather just chill with them and not have the stress. (Though hand drawn pictures from my 4 year old are always welcome!)

So what do moms want for Mother’s Day? If you’re asking me, it’s not a thing besides love. Love. Love is all you need.

 

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Have you seen this meme? It’s a glowing Meghan Markle with Prince Harry and the newest royal baby, Archie on one side. On the other side, is a typical family at the hospital after a birth, with mom rockin’ some of our fav mesh panties.

 

There is no doubt that Meghan or Kate receive VIP treatment during pregnancy, birth and postpartum that many of us would dream of, but one thing about this picture made me smile and another made me laugh. (Plus this meme is actually hilarious btw…)

First of all, let’s talk about how Meghan is not hiding her postpartum baby bump. If anything, her dress seems to be emphasizing the bump. I LOVE this. It’s so weird and disconcerting when upon having your first baby you realize that your belly doesn’t just magically flatten out once the baby is out!

It takes time for your uterus to shrink, plus swelling, extra pounds, and general squishiness mean that you’re going to still look pregnant for a hot minute after giving birth. Meghan clearly is not trying to hide this fact, and I love that!

My second thought was, there is no way she is NOT wearing some form of mesh underwear under that white dress. (Seriously how big are her lady balls to wear a white dress after just giving birth? I had great births, but for days and even weeks after the amount of lochia was so intense.)

So the truth I believe is that no matter what shiny presentation of Meghan, her new baby and prince we see out here in the rest of the world… behind closed doors, their life probably looks fairly similar to the photo on the right.

Though what I mentioned above is a reality. The postpartum care they receive is in a different league than what most of us receive. (Though pressure to snack back into pre-pregnancy shape is probably greater too.)

I’m really interested to see how Meghan handles her entire postpartum experience. These royal women have an opportunity to set the tone for how we talk about and approach ourselves and our bodies postpartum.

How will she use her place of power to help women who may not have the access to the care she does? How will she use her influence to help women accept their postpartum bodies? Or will she whip her body back into it’s previous shape ASAP with the help well paid experts?

What do you think? Share with me over on Facebook or Instagram.

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1. Mindset and Owning Your Choices

From the moment you tell other people you’re pregnant you’ll be getting lots of opinions… but…

Let’s get something clear right off the bat. YOU are in charge of your birth. Not your doctor. Not your midwife. Not your partner. Not your doula. Not your mother. Not your in-laws. YOU.

This is YOUR body mama. YOU get to choose what happens. If you ever feel pressured into making any decisions then take a minute to refocus and remember. YOU are in charge. NO ONE else.

Yes your partner’s wishes might want to be taken into consideration TO A POINT. But ultimately if their feelings conflict with your own, remember YOU are the one either pushing this baby out of your vagina, or if the situation warrants it, having a major surgery to birth that baby.

Doctors, midwives, doulas, partners, friends, family… these people are all hopefully trusted allies to us in this process. The choices that need to be made, will be made by you and no one else.

So let’s own this power.

Remove this from your language, “the doctor is making me…” “my doctor said I have to…”

You don’t HAVE to do a damn thing. You might CHOOSE something based on your doctors or midwife’s recommendation, but these are your choices to make. You can say no and ask for alternatives.

2. Define your goals and visualize your dream birth

Why are planning on giving birth without an epidural? What does natural childbirth look like to you? Does that mean no medication? Epidural free? No interventions? Are you looking to have a home birth or be in a hospital? Have you considered a birth center?

The very first thing to do before anything else is to define your birth goals and visualize what your ideal birth would look like. Your ideal childbirth is probably different than it is for others moms.

When we talk about not having an epidural, most people think of that as natural childbirth, but for some a natural birth simply means a vaginal birth. For others it could be a totally unmedicated birth. For others it isn’t just an unmedicated birth but also in a serene setting outside of a hospital.

In general, a natural childbirth means that you didn’t have any interventions or medications, though it is how the mother defines this idea that matters more than any other person’s definition, in my opinion.

For example, I had an epidural-free birth with my twins, though it was in a hospital and I induced with pitocin. So it may not be a 100% totally natural childbirth, but in my book, I popped two babies out, giving birth without an epidural, so I’m gonna go ahead and count it.

I knew from the beginning that although I would have loved to have a home water birth, a hospital setting would probably be safer considering twins do create a somewhat higher risk and make the birth slightly more complicated. I was however very committed to having as natural of a birth as possible for the situation.

So my goals were to avoid as many extra interventions and medications as I could while keeping many elements of a natural birth that were important to me, like skin-to-skin and establishing breastfeeding immediately. I created a list of my must-haves for my births, and I also had a list of things I would like but were like a second tier of priorities.

Before you meet with any medical professionals and choose your birth team, think about what kind of birth you desire and then write that down.

You aren’t necessarily creating a whole birth plan at this point. You’re just getting clear on your top goals and also what you absolutely want to avoid if possible.

People say that things change in birth and you can never be certain what will happen. This is true, and I believe in preparing yourself for potential changes in plans.

However if you don’t also plan for the birth you want, then the odds of it happening are slim to none.

Having a natural childbirth is normal and natural, but unfortunately many medical professionals and hospitals are not very supportive of it. Many doctors have never even witnessed a natural childbirth, and don’t know how to actually support a mother who chooses to birth naturally.

This is why the next step is super important.

3. Choose your birth team and/or prep them on your desires

Your birth team is probably the most important aspect of planning for a natural birth without an epidural, or really any birth outcome you desire.

Motivational speaker, Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

When it comes to your birth, I believe this to be 100% accurate. You need a team that is on board with your goals and will support you in those goals.

Not all healthcare providers are going to be supportive or helpful in your goal of a natural childbirth. So if a natural birth is what you’re going for, then you will want to research and interview doctors and/or midwives who have a history of successful natural births.

In general, midwives are more familiar with and more support of natural childbirth. Doctors are trained to deal with emergencies, to perform surgery, and always be ready for worst case scenarios. Midwives usually will be more likely to be acquainted with the natural flow of birth, and will engage in fewer interventions.

This is not a hard and fast rule though. Some doctors are very supportive of natural birth, while some midwives might try to push interventions quickly.

How do you know if a doctor or midwife has a history of successful natural births? The first thing I do is ask other moms. Get into your local mom groups on Facebook and ask around. See who has had a birth similar to what you want and see who they recommend.

Then use the go-to tool of all moms. Google.

Most doctors or midwives will have reviews you can find somewhere on the internet. Some even have Yelp reviews!

But pay close attention to what women are saying. If you want a natural birth, it isn’t sufficient for women to have had a good experience with a certain professional. You are looking for women who have had successful natural births who also loved their doctor or midwife. There could be a million women who loved having a certain doctor on their birth team, but they also had inductions and epidurals for all of their births. (Which more power to her if that’s her desire for her birth, but if it is not yours, then you need to consider if that doctor is a good fit for you.)

You can also ask for the stats of that doctor, midwife, or practice. My midwifery provided me with statistics on how many of their patients had natural births vs. interventions vs. c-sections.

4. Write your birth plan

Yes, birth is unpredictable. Does that mean you shouldn’t make a plan? Hell no! You NEED a plan if you want a specific outcome.

A football team doesn’t go to the Super Bowl without knowing the plays they want to run. The plays they choose to use and when they will use them will of course change based on their opponent, but they have a lot of tools in their arsenal to win the game and make adjustments on the fly.

This is kind of how a birth plan operates. It not only outlines your ideal expectations for birth, but also how you want to handle the unexpected. (Plus one aspect I have started including in my birth plans is how I’d like my babies to be cared for, and a friendly note to my nurses.)

But beyond how a birth plan can help your birth go a bit more smoothly, and it more likely you can have a natural birth without an epidural, it also is like a research project that allows you to enter this huge task super knowledgable. 

Lisa Chen penned an article about here at Mom Uprising about how she was able to have a safe natural birth without an epidural even though her birth didn’t go as planned. She said, “My dream of having a vaginal birth seemed to be slipping away. But all of my research while preparing for birth came rushing back to me.”

All the research she did ahead of time helped her feel confident in the choices she was making, and also be able to have conversations with medical staff where she stood firm on her birth goals while also being reasonable and well informed. You wishes should be honored no matter what, but if you can come from a place of power (i.e. knowledge) you can better achieve that goal. 

5. Know what to ask

One other thing Lisa mentioned in her article, that I also have utilized in birth is to have a set of questions to ask your care providers in case they are suggesting a change of plans. Those questions are:

  • Is mom okay?
  • Is baby okay?
  • Can it wait?

Answering these questions right away will give you a clearer picture of where you are at in the birth. When you are planning for giving birth without an epidural it can sometimes be a long process. Many moms are given pitocin or prematurely c-sections when really they just need to wait it out a little bit. 

When your care provider is suggesting an intervetion or procedure during your birth, assessing whether it is an emergency, if there is danger, and if you can wait is essential.

If you learn that there is no immediate danger, then you can take a deep breath and decide what your next move is. Perhaps you decide that an intervention is needed and you want to change the plans a bit, or maybe you just want to wait and see.

Using these questions can give you that opportunity.

 

Birth is transformative. It’s probably the most intense experience most women will every go through, but you were made for this. You can be successful at giving birth without an epidural. It just takes some planning, mama.

(PS – bonus points if you also plan for postpartum period, and get yourself a postpartum doula!)

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I have spent 5 years (including during my pregnancy) celebrating Mother’s Day as a mother. While I am all about mothers being celebrated, praised, adored, put on pedstals, cheered and basically worshipped for the goddesses we are, I am just not feeling that lovin’ feelin’ for Mother’s Day this year.

If I’m being honest, I am just feeling a little bored this year. Just kind of over it all together…

So how did this whole tradition begin anyway, why do we celebrate Mother’s Day?

According history.com, Anna Jarvis created the American version of the holiday in 1908. She was sponsored by John Wannamaker, the owner of a departement store in Philadelphia. The initial intention was to honor her mother. But like so many things in modern (or semi-modern life) it became commercialized.

Once it became a commercialized affair, Jarvis railed against it, and even pushed to have the holiday abolished. But by then it was too late. Mother’s Day had become far too entrenched for a cancelation.

In 1914 it became an official holiday in the United States.

The commercialization of Mother’s Day has only increased as time has gone by, and the reason we celebrate gotten a little lost. 

Over the last 100 years we’ve expanded this holiday to include the need to buy, buy, buy for moms. Though this is of course the trend for all holidays. Businesses want to cash in on any chance possible, even holidays as obscure as National Unicorn Day, let alone something more mainstream like Mother’s Day.

The last few years, commercial spending on Mother’s Day was over $20 billion. That’s BILLION.

On one hand, of course we as mothers deserve to be showered with gifts! We work our asses off all year long, and pour ourselves into raising tiny humans. We deserve all the presents. 

But…….

I’m going to be really thinking hard about why we celebrate Mother’s Day. Is this a tradition I want to continue, and if so, how? 

My husband and I have already decided we are no longer buying greeting cards. We recently went to a party for his niece, and instead of spending $5 on a cute little card that she would just throw away before the end of the day, he just stuffed a $20 bill in a regular business envelope and wrote on the outside of it. 

We all (or most of us) complain about the way holidays are commercialized, and at a time when Marie Kondo and minimalism are the hottest topics, maybe this is a simple place we can begin.

The temptation to conform to the expectations that special seasonal card section at Target places on us as we drive our little shopping cart full of kids and (mostly) essentials by is serious. But just maybe we can figure out another way to show our loved ones we love them on not just this, but all holidays.

How special is a card that millions of others moms are getting anyway?

 

And… does having this one day actually make our self-care and the credit we deserve a little flimsy and also less than we deserve?

When I was in school, I was never one of those students who judiciously studies throughout the course of the semester. No… I was a wait til the night before the finals and then cram until my brain exploded kinds of people.

Does Mother’s Day create a similar effect now?

Instead of having a reasonable level of self-care throughout the year, do we save it up for Mother’s Day as our one day we get to chill out? Or does our family save up their gratitude throughout the year and then just heap it onto us during one single day? Do you try to make up for all those times you meant to call your mom by being sure to call her on Mother’s Day?

Is this holiday a true celebration, or has it become more of an apology for the way we treat mothers the other 364 days of the year?

I’m going to say… yes.

I don’t care about Mother’s Day anymore.

Instead, I would love to have my well-being be a priority every damn day.

But if we decide we don’t want all the commercial BS, then what? How can we celebrate Mother’s Day?

Do we just give up on Mother’s Day? Our ONE freaking day to just get our due? To finally be recognized for all the work we do?

Not necessarily. There are other options.

Did you know the writer of the Battle Hymn of the Republic was a woman? A mother? 🤰🏻 Her name was Julia Ward Howe.

She actually called on mothers to come together and use our power to promote peace. 

This is something I’ve pondered for a long time. We as mothers have so much power because we are the ones who raise the next generations. Men are more and more involved throughout our children’s lives vs. previous generations, but mothers still hold the #1 spot in influence over a child’s early development.

We have so much power to not only influence our own children, but also the world with this responsibility and power.

Let’s take back Mother’s Day as more than just a time that we get cards and flowers and mani/pedi’s.

Here is the Mother’s Day Proclamation from Julia Ward Howe written not long after the Civil War: (I don’t particularly consider myself “Christian,” and choose to read that aspect as a call to action for morality vs. a particular religion)

 

“Again, in the sight of the Christian world, have the skill and power of two great nations exhausted themselves in mutual murder. Again have the sacred questions of international justice been committed to the fatal mediation of military weapons. In this day of progress, in this century of light, the ambition of rulers has been allowed to barter the dear interests of domestic life for the bloody exchanges of the battle field. Thus men have done. Thus men will do. But women need no longer be made a party to proceedings which fill the globe with grief and horror. Despite the assumptions of physical force, the mother has a sacred and commanding word to say to the sons who owe their life to her suffering. That word should now be heard, and answered to as never before.

Arise, then, Christian women of this day ! Arise, all women who have hearts, Whether your baptism be that of water or of tears ! Say firmly : We will not have great questions decided by irrelevant agencies. Our husbands shall not come to us, reeking with carnage, for caresses and applause. Our sons shall not be taken from us to unlearn all that we have been able to teach them of charity, mercy and patience. We, women of one country, will be too tender of those of another country, to allow our sons to be trained to injure theirs. From the bosom of the devastated earth a voice goes up with our own. It says: Disarm, disarm! The sword of murder is not the balance of justice. Blood does not wipe out dishonor, nor violence vindicate possession. As men have often forsaken the plough and the anvil at the summons of war, let women now leave all that may be left of home for a great and earnest day of council.

Let them meet first, as women, to bewail and commemorate the dead. Let them then solemnly take council with each other as to the means whereby the great human family can live in peace, man as the brother of man, each bearing after his own kind the sacred impress, not of Caesar, but of God.

In the name of womanhood and of humanity, I earnestly ask that a general congress of women, without limit of nationality, may be appointed and held at some place deemed most convenient, and at the earliest period consistent with its objects, to promote the alliance of the different nationalities, the amicable settlement of international questions, the great and general interests of peace.”

Julia Ward Howe

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25 of the best inspirational mom quotes for motivation, inspiration and commiseration. Enjoy these inspiration quotes mamas.1.The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness. -Honore de Balzac 2. One of the greatest titles...

What Do Moms Want for Mother’s Day? (This Mom Shares the Truth)

Been wondering... what do moms wants for Mother's Day? Some people are just sooo hard to buy for, and while this is just my personal opinion, I'm about to let you off the hook and clue you in on what moms want for Mother's Day.This might be shocking to some, so...

Are Royal Births Different Than Ours?

Have you seen this meme? It's a glowing Meghan Markle with Prince Harry and the newest royal baby, Archie on one side. On the other side, is a typical family at the hospital after a birth, with mom rockin' some of our fav mesh panties.   There is no doubt that...

Giving Birth without an Epidural

If you're thinking about giving birth without an epidural, then you're in the right place. Some people might try to talk you out of planning for a natural childbirth, but with the proper mindset and plan, it is totally doable for most moms! (I gave birth without an...

Why Do We Celebrate Mother’s Day? Is It Time We Stopped?

Today, Mother's Day is a day of brunching, flowers, cards, and if we are lucky, a alone time. Or perhaps the saintly among us just get to hang out and relax with our children because we prefer that to gifts and parties. But do we ever stop and wonder, why do we...

Single Mommin’ It and Providing for Your Family

The hilarious and super smart Liz Meli-Wischman (now Marciniak) joins the MomUp Show this week to share how she has reached one of the highest levels of Younique through integrity, authenticity, and humor.  Mamas in MLM's or direct sales, listen up for this one! Liz...

Life Was Boring Before Kids

You ever finally get that precious alone time away from your kids and wonder... what the hell do I do now? As much as we need alone time for self-care, date night, or just to poop, so many times when we finally get it, we don't know what to do with it. And one thing...

Moms Who Drink: Is Drinking Out of Control for Moms?

There are viral posts both joking about how mommy needs alcohol to survive motherhood with these little dictators ruling our lives... Then there are posts all about how we shouldn't need alcohol to be a mom, and that the jokes about drinking and motherhood have...

The Truth About How Hard it is to Be a Mom

You can't prepare for it, and you can't understand it until you are living it. But it is so hard to be a mom. Momlife is no joke. Physically, emotionally, spiritually it changes and challenges you. Let's talk about the truth about how hard it is to be a mom, and maybe...

Re-building the Village: Creating Community for Moms

there might be a ton of reasons we sometimes feel divided as moms, but the truth is that any division that happens within the mom community are truly due to our lack of connection. While we may be a group that shares many things in common, we don't always feel like a...

They Grow Up So Fast: Learning to Go With the Flow in Motherhood

"They grow up so fast." You hear it over and over again from experienced moms, maybe your own mom, aunt, grandmother... and inevitably when you talk to a brand new mom, you say the same thing to her. The time goes so fast, they grow up so fast. You wish there was...

Rainbow Toys for Toddlers

Looking for rainbow toys for toddlers, or even older kids, that will add some color to their space? These toys are cool enough that you won't need to hide them away in bins, and they don't blare kiddie tunes that get stuck in your head allllll day. These 10 rainbow...

Natural Breech Birth: Making Confident Choices in Childbirth

Making choices in childbirth can be a nerve-wracking experience for many first-time moms, but that's the beauty of having a birth plan (especially when you end up with an unplanned natural breech birth).   Lisa Chin learned first hand the benefits of having a...

Dealing With a Picky Eater: Does Your Child Refuse to Eat Anything?

guest post by Melody Manwell. It's not just you mama. I know it feels like maybe you're failing when your kid eats about 3 items, none are healthy, and dealing with a picky eater is so hard! That's why Melody Manwell is here to shed some light on why your kid might be...

Easy Meals for New Moms

Meal planning can overwhelm anyone. Add a newborn into the mix and it can be downright impossible! But if you’re due any day now or just had a bundle of joy, read on for tips and tricks to survive the first three months with a newborn. These easy meals for new moms...

MomUp Episode 6 with Sammi Blaque

Being present, getting grounded, centered, self-love, self-care... this doesn't have to mean hours and hours of time we set aside away from our kids. We can do it in the moment and reconnect with who we are as moms through our body and through sensuality. Sammi...

3 Keys to a Strong Marriage After Having a Baby

by contributor: April Vaassen Just surviving can be tough, let alone thriving and making sure your marriage is staying strong after having a baby. But, mama, it IS possible. These three keys have helped me maintain a strong marriage after having a baby.   I often...

MomUp Show Episode 5 with Christina Johnson

As a mom, sometimes it's hard to just accomplish taking a shower. But we have to much potential we can tap into. So many goals we can achieve, and dreams to reach.  In this episode of the MomUp Show, I chat with Christina Johnson all about living your purpose and how...

MomUp Show Episode 4 with Ashley Hagan

Hey Mamas. Morgan here. You know, I rarely actually introduce MYSELF on episodes. But I'm the founder of momuprising.com and this podcast. I love hanging out with you every week, and I am so excited to present this episode. Ashley Hagan is a yoga instructor and brand...

MomUp Show Episode 3 with Aleia McDaniel

Self-care for moms is about more than bubble baths and brunches. It runs much deeper, and is a learned skill. One essential component is creating boundaries around self-care for moms.  Aleia McDaniel shares how she was able to create fierce boundaries for her...

Episode 2 with Sunshine Boatright

Moms. Give yourself some grace. We put the weight of the world on our shoulders, and our ambition is high octane sometimes, but we also need to show ourselves a minimum level of self-love and self-care.  Sunshine Boatright joins us on the second episode of the...

I’m a Mom, and I Don’t Do Dishes.

I. Don't. Do. Dishes. This isn't an exaggeration either. Even though I'm a mom, and my primary job is caring for my children, I have done the dishes less than a handful of times in the last year.    Yeah that might seem impossible... but it's true. I don't do...

The Best Nursing Bras According to Breastfeeding Moms

If there is one thing that changes after having a baby... it's your breasts. Chances are you don't quite recognize them anymore. Breastfeeding initially means your breasts are a lot bigger than they used to be and probably leaking milk on a regular basis. Once your...

What Self-Care Really Means for Moms? Being Your OWN Mom.

Self-care as a mom is almost a joke at this point. It seems like some luxury we will never be rich enough to afford either with enough money or time. We feel like we are always running on a deficit of either income or sleep. But self-care isn't about the mani/pedi's...

Episode 1 with Dana Skoglund

  If you struggle to create new habits, achieve your goals, and stick to and implement plans, then this one is for you. Dana Skoglund, yoga instructor and productivity expert, walks us through a little coaching session on how to achieve your goals as a mom by...

3 Reasons It’s Harder for Moms to Keep Resolutions

Every year I do it. I try to defy the odds and finally complete just one resolution. But as the years have gone by, it isn't getting any easier. In fact, it feels harder! Becoming a mom has not lowered the bar, and it's clear that there are more than a few reasons...

Welcome to the MomUp Show

Hey Mama, Nice to meet you. I'm Morgan, the founder of Mom Uprising. I'm here to help you reconnect, to find yourself again, even in the midst of the chaos of motherhood. As I type this, my 4 year old is sitting on my lap because she "wanted up." I know it's easy to...

Why I Ignored “Experts” to Embrace My Mama Bear Instincts

The mama bear instincts. They are strong. They are fierce. The truth is that we have all the wisdom we need inside of us as mothers. Do we value the input of others when asked? Of course. But the instincts we were given naturally are the most important compass that we...

Being Present Vs. Giving Presents this Holiday Season

Delete. Delete. Delete... I hit that button about a dozen times until my Amazon cart was empty. I had gone on a bit of an adding to cart binge while looking for stocking stuffers for my kids. What I had intended to be a minimalist Christmas filled with experiences...

Why You Need a Postpartum Doula

by guest blogger: Felicia Trumbauer Postpartum can be a wonderful blissful time of settling into your new family, or it can be a whirlwind of stress. With all the expenses associated with a new baby, sometimes it's easy to ignore why you need a postpartum doula....

What if You Don’t Have a College Fund for Your Kid?

Raise your hand if you haven't saved a dime toward your child's education. Feeling some guilt about that? The experts say don't! The idea of being able start saving for college may seem like a pipe dream. Yes, if you have some extra cash you can put away for your...

How I Feel About My Postpartum Body Now

This body... It has done amazing things. Birthed three children and nursed them for over 3.5 years combined. In one breath I thank every stretch mark. In the next I curse them. While I know this body gave me my babies, part of me can only see the imperfections as...

5 Productivity Tips for Stay at Home Mom Entrepreneurs

It's no surprise that the number one issue for a stay at home mom entrepreneur is time and productivity. The average mom only gets 17 minutes of alone time per day. That's barely enough time to take a shower let alone build a business. Let's see if we can find a...

The Best Tips to Succeed at Breastfeeding from Real Moms

Breastfeeding is hard. Yes it's natural, but it doesn't always come naturally to many of us. Bad latch, low supply, going back to work, pressure to supplement from doctors... the list of possible issues that can arise is long and can be complicated. A few...

I’m Not Ready to Be a Soccer Mom. Where Did My Baby Go?

Is this what a soccer mom looks like? In some ways I guess I lucked out to be a mom and a "soccer mom" in this era. We are blessed with things like SUV's and high waisted jeans actually being in style, a nice little perk for our distended postpartum bellies. And while...

This Real Mom Says Attachment Parenting is for Lazy Parents

written by Sarah of RealSimpleMama.com We attachment parents like to think of ourselves as martyrs. The benefits of attachment parenting are undeniable, but sometimes we lose that focus by dramatizing in an attempt to look selfless and noble. The media doesn't help...

Owning My Story of Postpartum Depression

The greatest resource we have to help us in our journey through motherhood is the knowledge other mothers share with us. But nowadays it seems scarier than ever to open and share with others because we are afraid of being judged.   This can be even harder if...

Moms: Have You Forgotten Who You Were?

By: Iman Gatti Have you forgotten... Who you were before the chaos? Before everything you did was questioned and scrutinized. Before the stakes were so high. Before all of this emerging and transforming. This tearing down and rebuilding. Before you became a mother....

5 Tips for Work Life Balance for Moms

Work life balance for moms is so elusive. So often our needs are put on the back burner for bosses or babies. But self-love and self-care expert, Eva Ponce, is sharing her best 5 tips for work life balance or moms.   To be successful as mompreneur involves momentum...

Being “Just a Mom”

Being called "just" a mom is offensive as hell. Any mother knows that this is the toughest job in the world. I've worked outside of the home, from home, and have also not worked while staying home with kids. I would always been quick to call out someone who puts down...

How Shame Stops Moms from Practicing Self-Care

How many times have you heard that self-care is essential as a mom? That we have to fill our own cup first, or put on our own oxygen mask before helping others? But the thing is... how often do you actually practice self-care?   We chalk it up to not having the...

Pregnancy Must Haves for First Trimester

These pregnancy must-haves for first trimester are absolutely essential for all the mamas out there on the struggle bus. First trimester morning sickness is no joke. As I type this out, my body remembers what it felt like to simultaneously feel like throwing up and...

Myths About Mom Entrepreneurs

I've been giving some thought to why some mom entrepreneurs are struggling with online marketing, why the term "mompreneur" gets a bad rep, and how we can bust some the myths floating around out there about mom entrepreneurs. Ready for me to get a little ranty???...

Emotions After Birth: All the Feels Postpartum

Postpartum. That vulnerable time after you have a baby is intense. The emotions after birth are some of the most poignant you'll feel in your entire life.  One night while I was up late with my twins right after their birth, I furiously typed out these words in an...

Single Mommin’ It and Providing for Your Family

Single Mommin’ It and Providing for Your Family

The hilarious and super smart Liz Meli-Wischman (now Marciniak) joins the MomUp Show this week to share how she has reached one of the highest levels of Younique through integrity, authenticity, and humor. 

Mamas in MLM’s or direct sales, listen up for this one! Liz shares how she is crushing it without being a creepy spammer.

PLUS – we talk all about momlife (of course!)

 

Liz Marciniak is a single mama to four wild children and an Exclusive Purple Status leader with Younique. She’s from Buffalo, NY, and if you need her you can probably find her on the Internet making videos about not being able to pee alone.

For makeup and skincare inquiries go to MyLipGlossIsPoppin.com.

To watch stupid videos and laugh at the disgusting mess motherhood is, check out Mom So Hard With Liz MW on Facebook!

How to Enjoy Being a Stay-at-Home Mom

For a lot of moms (and dads), being able to stay at home with the kids and ditch the 9-5 sounds like a fantasy. But once you’re actually at home with those kids 24/7, it can get a little monotonous (and chaotic) to say the least. It can be hard to actually enjoy it. So here are our 10 best tips on how to enjoy being a stay-at-home mom.

25 Inspirational Mom Quotes

25 of the best inspirational mom quotes for motivation, inspiration and commiseration. Enjoy these inspiration quotes mamas.1.The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness. -Honore de Balzac 2. One of the greatest titles...

What Do Moms Want for Mother’s Day? (This Mom Shares the Truth)

Been wondering... what do moms wants for Mother's Day? Some people are just sooo hard to buy for, and while this is just my personal opinion, I'm about to let you off the hook and clue you in on what moms want for Mother's Day.This might be shocking to some, so...

Are Royal Births Different Than Ours?

Have you seen this meme? It's a glowing Meghan Markle with Prince Harry and the newest royal baby, Archie on one side. On the other side, is a typical family at the hospital after a birth, with mom rockin' some of our fav mesh panties.   There is no doubt that...

Giving Birth without an Epidural

If you're thinking about giving birth without an epidural, then you're in the right place. Some people might try to talk you out of planning for a natural childbirth, but with the proper mindset and plan, it is totally doable for most moms! (I gave birth without an...

Why Do We Celebrate Mother’s Day? Is It Time We Stopped?

Today, Mother's Day is a day of brunching, flowers, cards, and if we are lucky, a alone time. Or perhaps the saintly among us just get to hang out and relax with our children because we prefer that to gifts and parties. But do we ever stop and wonder, why do we...

Single Mommin’ It and Providing for Your Family

The hilarious and super smart Liz Meli-Wischman (now Marciniak) joins the MomUp Show this week to share how she has reached one of the highest levels of Younique through integrity, authenticity, and humor.  Mamas in MLM's or direct sales, listen up for this one! Liz...

Life Was Boring Before Kids

You ever finally get that precious alone time away from your kids and wonder... what the hell do I do now? As much as we need alone time for self-care, date night, or just to poop, so many times when we finally get it, we don't know what to do with it. And one thing...