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How to Wean a Toddler from Breastfeeding

How to Wean a Toddler from Breastfeeding

You’ve been breastfeeding your toddler for what feels like foreeeever, and you’re ready to wean. But how? In this post, I’ll break down some tips for how to wean a toddler from breastfeeding.

I’ve put in a combined roughly 94 months of breastfeeding so far between my three kids. I’ve dealt with everyone from biting to latching issues. My first weaned at around 2.5 years, and I’m currently gently weaning my 2.5-year-old twins. If you’re wondering how to wean a toddler from breastfeeding then you’re in the right place. Starting your breastfeeding journey is a bit bumpy for many moms, and the weaning process can be bumpy as well. This isn’t an exhaustive list of tips, but are tips that helped me personally navigate this sensitive time

Deciding When to Wean Your Toddler

The choice for when to wean your toddler is up to exactly one person. You. Moms feel a lot of pressure from friends, family, society, or social media. That is especially true when it comes to breastfeeding. Everyone seems to have an opinion on what you should do with your own breasts.

If you wean too early people will say you couldn’t stick it out, but nurse longer than some people are comfortable with they’ll call you weird. Just know that no matter what you choose, there will be naysayers. But let the parent who is 100% perfect throw the first stone, and spoiler alert, there are no perfect parents.

So when deciding whether it is time for you to wean is a personal choice that is no one’s to make except for the person doing the breastfeeding, and of course the child who is breastfeeding gets *some* say in this too. I say some because you can’t really force a child to breastfeed. If they don’t want to nurse, they simply won’t. Though you might be ready before your child is to stop, and thats ok! Even a little bit of breastmilk is helpful for babies, so if you’ve made it this far you are a rockstar.

What is the Best Age to Stop Breastfeeding?

The best age to stop breastfeeding will vary wildly based on the mom and baby’s needs. There are a myriad of reasons why a mom would choose to either continue to breastfeed or to wean. There are however some expert organizations and studies we can point to when thinking about what we want to set as our goals for breastfeeding.

WHO and UNICEF recommend that children initiate breastfeeding within the first hour of birth and be exclusively breastfed for the first 6 months of life – meaning no other foods or liquids are provided, including water. 

Infants should be breastfed on demand – that is as often as the child wants, day and night. No bottles, teats or pacifiers should be used. 

From the age of 6 months, children should begin eating safe and adequate complementary foods while continuing to breastfeed for up to 2 years and beyond.

-From the WHO website

What are the Side Effects of Stopping Breastfeeding?

The most common side effect you will probably have to contend with is engorgement or potentially mastitis. If you decrease the amount of nursing you are doing, then you will have a surplus of milk supply. Cutting off nursing and/or pumping too quickly then you might end up with some clogged ducts or mastitis. Instead, try to wean off slowly to prevent this.

Another common side effect of stopping breastfeeding is depression. Choosing to end your breastfeeding journey can bring up a lot of emotions, but there is also a physiological reason for feeling down after weaning. One of the perks of breastfeeding is the release of oxytocin, which can make you feel awesome. It’s called the “love” hormone for a reason. So when you quit nursing that production goes down. There’s not a ton of evidence or studies around this, but it is hypothesized that this may cause depression in some moms.

And don’t forget about the tantrums. Breastfed toddlers are used to getting their warm mama milk their entire life now. You can wean gently and over time, but once you start saying no, it could lead to a tantrum as many things tend to do with toddlers.

How Long Does it Take for Milk to Dry Up After Weaning a Toddler?

The majority of your milk will probably dry up within a week or two. But some moms report being able to express some milk for months or even years after weaning! Sounds far fetched, right? But it’s not. It’s common enough, and it makes sense that while your supply does adjust fairly quickly to increases or decreases in demand, the milk factory doesn’t necessarily just shut down right away after it’s used to chugging along every day for months or years.

How Do I Stop Breastfeeding? Weaning Slowly vs. Cold Turkey.

Unless you need to quit cold turkey for a non-negotiable reason, I would suggest weaning slowly if possible. Not only will this help ensure you don’t get clogged ducts and mastitis, but it will make the entire process easier with way fewer tears from both mom and baby.

While I have don’t countless hours of research into breastfeeding over the years, this next bit of advice is just my personal opinion from experience. The weaning process truly starts when the baby begins to eat solids. While babies under 1 year should continue to receive breastmilk or formula, adding in solid food to their diet naturally means they are going to have less and less breastmilk or formula over time. Without necessarily planning to, you’ve probably already started the process of weaning your toddler.

Thinking about it as a process, or a part of development similar to learning to walk and talk might help take a little pressure off of the situation and allow you to go with the flow. For me, I just started to know intuitively when it was time to bump up the process of weaning a little bit. There came a time with all of my kids when the nursing sessions started to dwindle or decrease in length, and when I tried redirecting them, they were easily moved onto something else instead of breastfeeding. It’s at that point that I focused more on the following:

Feed your weaning toddler more solids. By the time most babies become toddlers they are probably eating solids fairly well. But when I choose to start nudging the weaning process along I push as much solids as I can, especially ones that I think will fill their bellies and kind of mimic the comfort of having breastmilk.

So for example, lots of yogurt or glasses of whole milk, and I always keep plenty of their favorite snacks on hand, even things like chocolate. I give my kids a wide range of foods, including sweets and candy. For me, it’s about balance and moderation and teaching that from a young age. Also, having those tempting treats are good to have around when you need to give a little distraction from the almighty boob.

Redirect, redirect, redirect. As often as I can, instead of just saying “no” to my toddler having milk, I try to redirect their attention to something else. That might include a yummy snack, a hug, some tickles, a game, a toy, something interesting near us like a butterfly or airplane in the sky. You get the point. Find something to distract them with instead fo continuously saying no.

Know when to give it and when to hold your ground. This is a tough one that you just have to follow your gut on. The point of this is to try to reduce the amount of time you are breastfeeding and eventually wean them. But if you’re doing it gently and slowly it means you are still going to be breastfeeding for a while. So how do you find that balance between continuing to meet their emotional and physical needs while beginning to get a little space from your nursling?

The answer is truly up to you, and takes intuition and knowing your child. I know when my little ones really need a little boob time when they are truly upset and need comfort vs. when they have the more typical 2-year-old meltdown that is akin to saying no to getting a toy at Target. It’s still totally valid for them to be upset when hearing the answer is “no,” but as a mother, you can usually tell the different types of upset, why they are mad, and how best to support them. Sometimes supporting them means letting them go ahead and nurse, and sometimes it is holding that boundary while empathizing with their emotions, maybe offering a hug or a kiss instead.

How Can I Get My Toddler to Sleep Without Nursing?

All of my kids share a bed with me and my husband. We have a queen mattress and king mattress pushed together on the floor of our master bedroom. We chose to start bedsharing when our first was a baby. After falling asleep with her in the rocking chair while nursing her as a newborn I did some research and found that was much less safe than choosing to bedshare while following safety guidelines like the safe sleep 7. At that point, I decided to take the precautions necessary and bring her to bed with me, and all of our kids have slept with us in various arrangements since.

Sleep training and crying it out just aren’t for me and my family. I like to go with the natural development of my children and support them as they learn to sleep on their own naturally. This means a lot of nighttime cuddles and breastfeeding over night. With my first, she started night weaning around 18 months with very little effort from me. All I needed to do was start giving her a little pat on that back with some shushing and she’d usually fall back asleep without needing any milk at that point.

My twins though? They were still nursing at night like babies when they were over 2 years old. I spent all night with both boobs out like a smorgasbord, and eventually I couldn’t do it anymore. So I decided to try night weaning them. After hearing from other moms who practice gentle parenting that the Jay Gordon method worked for them, I gave it a try. Within a couple weeks, my boys were night weaned. You can read the details here, but to put it simply, I decreased the amount of time they could nurse each night slowly over the course of days/weeks, until they were no longer night nursing. We had a couple tough nights, but I was with them and cuddling them through it.

Also try these book to help prepare there:

Sally Weans from Night Nursing

Nursies When the Sun Shines: A little book on nightweaning

Coping Emotionally When Weaning Your Toddler

Even if you are so over nursing you just want to be done, you might still get some feels. When thinking about never breastfeeding your toddler again, it’s normal to get sad.

Breastfeeding is an incredible bond. When you’ve breastfed for many months or years it’s normal to get emo. That’s a lot of skin-to-skin and cuddles. We know that our little ones will grow up and they will become more and more independent. Knowing that and seeing it happen are two different things.

Just feel those feels mama. Don’t deny them or push them away. Find another mom who nursed who you can share your emotions with. Someone who understands. Check out groups where you can get support at the links below. Lean on them for support.

Where to Find Support While Weaning

Legendairy Mamas

The Cleavage Club: Breastfeeding Support Group

LLLI Breastfeeding Support Group

La Leche League for Moms of Twins/Multiples

Breastfeeding Mama Talk Privately

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We’ve put together a list of our toddlers‘ favorite outdoor toys and others highly rated by moms on Amazon so you can have some picture perfect outdoor time with the littlest ones.

(Heads up mamas. Links included here are affiliate links, meaning I get a small commission on any products purchased at NO extra charge to you.)

 

Splash Pads! Stay cool outdoors with the kids.

These are seriously amazing for kids of all ages. My twins were just about 8 months old when we got our first one and they loved crawling around in it, and now that they are bigger toddlers they STILL love it. A splash pad is definitely a must-have outdoor toy for babies and toddlers. (Click images to shop Splash Pads on Amazon.)

 

Sandboxes for toddlers are awesome. Just make sure they don’t eat the sand. LOL.

There’s nothing that says summer and the outdoors more than sand between your toes. My kids can’t get enough of their sandbox and it’s a big treat whenever I make their dad haul a big bag of new sand out for them. If you need a bit of relaxing mommy time, putting your kid in the sandbox is a perfect way to get some space while keeping the kids entertained guilt-free. (Click on images to shop sandboxes on Amazon)

 

Water tables for toddlers are awesome!

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Gardening for kids is so fun, even tiny ones.

When I am planning activities, I try to find something my toddlers AND bigger kids will love. Gardening fits that bill perfectly. They love digging in the dirt, making mudpies, planting seeds, and watering the garden. Shop gardening for kids on Amazon here.

 

Tiny bikes for toddlers.

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Slides, Swings and More. Don’t forget these old favs.

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Don’t reinvent the wheel. Push and pull toys for toddlers are perfect. 

My toddlers can’t get enough of cars, wagons, and anything they can push around. Perfect for toddlers starting to walk, these are favs of so many little ones outdoors. Shop all the wheels on Amazon here.

 

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It is so frustrating shopping for gifts for moms who don’t want anything, isn’t it?

But even if she proclaims she doesn’t need a thing, there are gifts for moms who don’t want anything that are exactly what they need!

This year, get the mom in your life something that will make her life easier and happier with these ideas for gifts for moms who don’t want anything that she secretly wants and might not tell you.

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Dinner Delivered

Grocery shopping with kids is like a special kind of torture reserved for the 7th circle of hell.

Seriously, it can be so exhausting both physically and emotionally. Then you have to actually cook that food you just bought, but really you’re probably too exhausted and just end up getting drive-thru instead of eating that nutritious food you just spent a small fortune on.

Did you know you could have that food delivered to your door for free? (or pretty close to it?)

With an Amazon Prime membership, you can have groceries delivered to mom’s door so she can Netflix and chill instead of losing her mind while a toddler screams because she won’t let him get another treat.

To learn how to give Amazon Prime as a gift, just check out this link.

AND moms can even order ready-to-cook meal kits directly from Amazon Fresh. No need to commit to monthly subscriptions. Just choose what she wants that week and delicious meal kids (many with 4-5 stars) are delivered right to the door with all the ingredients necessary to prepare an incredibly healthy and yummy meal.

Of course, there is always the good old standby of ordering some pizza to be delivered! (OMG, and now I’m so hungry for pizza…)

Get Mom a maid

This sounds a little outlandish perhaps, but did you know you can order cleaning services or your home on Amazon? Seriously.

Deep cleaning, gutter cleaning, carpet cleaning, grout cleaning, and the list goes on and on. Take a little off a mama’s plate and get her some help.

You can either set up a cleaning service yourself by going here (check with her first of course) or get her an Amazon gift card that she can use towards services.

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Hire a Babysitter

Most moms won’t be cool with just ANYone coming over to watch their littles. At first, this might sound like it could go into the column of the very bad list of ideas for Christmas gifts for moms, but there are ways to make it work.

Unless you know a babysitter that mom is already comfortable with and loves, then this probably isn’t something to spring on her. Instead, you’ll want to craft the plan with her so she can give her ok on whoever the babysitter is.

There are two ways I recommend finding someone trustworthy enough to keep mamas babies safe and happy.

The first is to ask around for personal recommendations. Chances are you know someone who will give you names and info on some local babysitters. The best babysitter I ever had was a friend from high school, who really is more like an aunt to my boys now!

The second is to check out Care.com. When my favorite babysitter couldn’t cover all the days I needed, I hired backup. Care.com is awesome because you can see all prospective babysitter’s qualifications and even background checks.

If actually hiring a babysitter isn’t really in the realm of possibility, then what about a gym membership?

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Been wondering… what do moms wants for Mother’s Day? Some people are just sooo hard to buy for, and while this is just my personal opinion, I’m about to let you off the hook and clue you in on what moms want for Mother’s Day.

This might be shocking to some, so prepare to clutch your pearls ladies…

NOTHING.

 That’s it. Not a thing. (Except maybe for my husband to get up with the kids in the morning.)

I’m just not into getting all the things this year. Not even some of the things.

Let me explain…

Raise your hand if you’ve Marie Kondo’d your life recently, and maybe ended up manically standing over piles of stuff that just doesn’t bring you joy anymore?

Minimalism is the thing right now, not over-consumption (not more stuff for the sake of it), and my family is all aboard the minimal train for a plethora of reasons.

The biggest benefit of it though? I find that I am actually learning to appreciate and fully feel gratitude for what I DO have. 

For basically my entire marriage and motherhood so far, I’ve been in debt. While we technically have debt now in the form of a car payment and mortgage, we no longer have credit card debt. That’s ZERO credit card debt. 

Digging my family out of thousands of dollars in credit card debt took a lot time, much longer than it took to get into it, and being more diligent than I’ve ever been in my life with budgeting and spending. (Plus, the help of family, and cashing out some old investments I had sitting around.)

I was blessed with never having to worry about money for most of my life. I have been incredibly privileged. 

Then things changed when I was fired from my last full time jobAfter having my daughter, I just lost all interest in working. The problem was, I was the breadwinner in my family.

My husband was mostly a stay-at-home-dad, and I worked outside of the home. But doing that 1.5 hour commute each way every weekday was wearing on me. Finally I just couldn’t do it anymore and my performance on the job slipped to the point that they just let me go. 

Looking back, I am so happy it happened because we are finally on a path of abundance again. My husband works full time from home, and I blog and do social media work for clients. We somehow make it by, and it is still sometimes with the help of family who help me make sure my kids get all the fun extras like music lessons (thanks Mom!).

BUT – that initial period of having no full-time income coming in the door, and still needing to pay for all the things lead to a hefty credit card bill.

Also, if I’m being honest, we had some credit card debt even before I lost my job because I just sucked at not spending on useless or unneeded things. It is only through hindsight that I realize how many things I spent money on that at the time seemed so necessary, but in reality were worthless.

Things are different now though.

Besides getting rid of debt, I’ve been working hard to minimize our entire life and get rid of junk. (With my hubby’s help too!)

This minimizing even goes so far as to make our meal planning each week incredibly simple, easy, and kind of meager if I’m honest. We have all the necessities, are well fed on awesome organic food, and my kids have snacks, but we rarely have much leftover or extra. No throwing out unused foods. 

Instead of trying to cook something new every day or even every other day, we just have two main meals we cook each week.

We make a huge batch of grilled chicken breast and cut it up. Then we can just pull out some of it for on salads throughout the week. Besides the chicken, we just do one additional main meal that we back a big pot of and then eat throughout the week.

With those two meals plus things like yogurt, fruit, carrots, crackers with hummus, and other simple and easy snacks, we get by each week. 

So when a holiday or special occasion comes around that gives us a reason to prepare a big additional meal, it feels like a great indulgence!

That’s why the only thing I asked for this year for Mother’s Day was a ham dinner! (Ok technically I didn’t ask for NOTHING, but does food really count as a gift?)

A few years ago, a home cooked meal wouldn’t feel like it was indulgent or special. It was de rigueur. The norm. But since minimizing everything, even our diet, this special holiday dinner my hubby is cooking for me actually feels super abundant! It actually feels like a celebration instead of just another thing we have to check off our to-do list. 

And it isn’t just because we do a minimal meal plan each week. We also are super minimal about holidays too. For some, like Christmas, we go all out for the kids (and each other), but for others, like Easter, we didn’t do anything besides hide a few eggs filled with chocolate. For Easter, we didn’t even do anything different for our meal! We just had a meal we keep on rotation that everyone in the family loves, spaghetti and meatballs.

The me that existed a few years ago would have found it sad to think about not doing all the things for every single holiday or every single birthday. (For our kids’ birthdays we didn’t even have parties the last couple of years, but just cake and ice cream at home. Spoiler alert: they didn’t care!)

A bonus to minimizing everything beyond cost and time saving is also a huge decrease in stress!

No stressing over parties, shopping, cooking, cleaning, etc. Because ultimately what is best for me, my husband, my kids, and anyone we are friends or family with, is for us to not be going bananas trying to check even more boxes off of a to-do list that is already far too long.

Perhaps this is something that comes with life experience, getting older, or a big mix of stuff, but I’ve realized just how precious my life is. How precious the resources I have at my disposal are. I’ve realized that any and all the things could be taken away at any moment. 

So, while I’m not perfect at this, my ability to truly cultivate gratitude, and also the use a self-imposed form of scarcity to create abundance, has come from being focused on what is the most important to me. 

What’s most important thing, and what I really want or Mother’s Day, is simple and honestly kind of a trope or cliché.

I really just want to be with my family, and know that for now we are all well cared for and safe. 

My husband making me a good meal? That’s just icing on the proverbial cake.

I have always tried to search my brain for an idea on the perfect gift for my Mom, but she always says she doesn’t need anything and doesn’t want anything. I figure she’s just being modest or trying to not force her kids to spend money on her. But I’ve realized now that I’ve been a mom for a hot minute that maybe I should just take her at her word.

There is nothing that I truly need, or that I want my kids or even husband to really get me right now. I’d rather just chill with them and not have the stress. (Though hand drawn pictures from my 4 year old are always welcome!)

So what do moms want for Mother’s Day? If you’re asking me, it’s not a thing besides love. Love. Love is all you need.

 

How to Wean a Toddler from Breastfeeding

How to Wean a Toddler from Breastfeeding

You've been breastfeeding your toddler for what feels like foreeeever, and you're ready to wean. But how? In this post, I'll break down some tips for how to wean a toddler from breastfeeding. I've put in a combined roughly 94 months of breastfeeding so far between my...

The Best Outdoor Toys for 1-Year-Old

The Best Outdoor Toys for 1-Year-Old

Getting outside is so important for little ones to get fresh air and run off some energy, not to mention it’s great for mama too! This is our list of the best outdoor toys for 1-year-old that kids and moms both love.

28 Best Mom Hacks that Real Moms Swear By

28 Best Mom Hacks that Real Moms Swear By

The BEST resource for learning how to totally rock momlife is the wisdom other moms learned in the school of hard knocks. So we are sharing 28 best mom hacks that real moms swear by and shared on our Facebook page. Honestly, some of the tips and incredible mom hacks...

Cluster Feeding Tips to Survive Your Newborn Feeding Every Hour

Cluster Feeding Tips to Survive Your Newborn Feeding Every Hour

Want more breastfeeding tips? Find us on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest.facebookinstagrampinterest Got a stage 5 clinger who won't let go of your boob? Like your nipple feels like it's now permanently attached to your little squish? You've got a cluster feeder....

What Kind of Pregnancy Test Should I Buy?

What Kind of Pregnancy Test Should I Buy?

Think you're pregnant or trying to conceive? You're probably wondering what kind of pregnancy test should I buy? These 5 questions will help you choose which is best for you, and we'll give you our pick for the best one. So you can answer the question for yourself on...

Paced Feeding Your Breastfed Baby

Paced Feeding Your Breastfed Baby

Want to give your breastfed baby a bottle, but worried about them starting to prefer the bottle over breast? Paced feeding is a great way to initiate bottle feeding, and I'll share how and why I chose paced feeding with my breastfed babies. I've breastfed for over 6...

3 First Month Pregnancy Tips to Start Off on a Good Foot

3 First Month Pregnancy Tips to Start Off on a Good Foot

Just found out your pregnant, or maybe wondering if you are? These first month pregnancy tips will help you get started. The first few weeks of pregnancy can be stressful and also blissful. These are three tips to help you get started at the very beginning, and I've...

Our 10 Most Viewed Posts of 2019

Our 10 Most Viewed Posts of 2019

Another year over, and a new one about to begin. As I write this it is 8:21pm on December 31, 2019. We are about to start a new decade. Like so many others, we are taking a minute to look back first. These are our top 10 viewed posts of 2019 here at Mom Uprising. They...

Perfect IG Posts for Self-Care Inspiration

Perfect IG Posts for Self-Care Inspiration

Tired? Stressed? Ready to let it all go and start putting yourself first? Let's do it, mama. Get started with these 10 self-care inspiration posts we totally love. It's easy to get stuck in a rut, and sometimes just a simple image can break you out of your stickiness...

The Best Way to Breastfeed Twins

The Best Way to Breastfeed Twins

Expecting twins and want to tandem breastfeed? There are so many questions, right? Like what are the logistics? What is the best way to breastfeed twins? I got you. Keep reading to find out how I made it work. Breastfeeding one baby can be an awkward learning curve,...

6 Self-Care Blogs Moms Should Follow

6 Self-Care Blogs Moms Should Follow

In a bit of a self-care rut and need some inspo? These 6 self-care blogs will give you a little push to get yourself back into some super helpful self-care practices that work for you. I thought my self-care game was on point, but just perusing through these blogs I...

Breastfeeding Newborn Tips to Make Breastfeeding Easier

Breastfeeding Newborn Tips to Make Breastfeeding Easier

Planning to breastfeed? It can be tough, mama. But you're tough too. These newborn breastfeeding tips are what I found helped me the most in my 6+ years of breastfeeding. When you're just starting to breastfeed with your newborn, whether this is your first or tenth...

5 Tips for Surviving the First Trimester of Pregnancy

5 Tips for Surviving the First Trimester of Pregnancy

Just find out you're pregnant? Congrats mama! Did those pregnancy symptoms start already, and you're trying to learn about surviving the first trimester? We've got you covered with these 5 essential tips. The first trimester is notoriously difficult between the...

5 Steps to a Self-Care Plan for Busy Moms

5 Steps to a Self-Care Plan for Busy Moms

Blaaah... another self-care article? YES MAMA. Because I know you aren’t taking care of yourself as well as you could, and the reason is that you don’t have a self-care plan! Self-care doesn’t have to be complicated, cost a lot of money, or require a babysitter. If...

First Time Breastfeeding Tips to Establish Nursing ASAP

First Time Breastfeeding Tips to Establish Nursing ASAP

First Time Breastfeeding Tips #1: Shoot for a Natural Birth (or Few Interventions) Interventions during birth can have a negative impact on establishing a breastfeeding relationship, and increased interventions have been shown to lead to moms breastfeeding for shorter...

5 Early Pregnancy Tips for the First Weeks of Pregnancy

5 Early Pregnancy Tips for the First Weeks of Pregnancy

Just find out you're pregnant and not know WTF to do next? Yeah, most of us felt like that. But we've got you, soon-to-be mama. These early pregnancy tips will help you get through the early weeks of pregnancy with a little less stress. Those early weeks of pregnancy...

Why is a Self-Care Checklist a Gamechanger for Moms?

Why is a Self-Care Checklist a Gamechanger for Moms?

Still putting yourself last? Taking care of everyone else's needs before your own? Time to change that by making yourself a self-care checklist. After always forgetting to take care of my own very basic needs, I decided I need to get super practical about my...

8 Nipple-Saving Breastfeeding Tips for Pain

8 Nipple-Saving Breastfeeding Tips for Pain

Ouch! All those serene photos of mothers and babies lovingly staring into each others' eyes didn't prepare you for this! But it's ok mama. These breastfeeding tips for pain will help your nips feel better soon, so you can enjoy your breastfeeding journey. I've been...

Be a Brave Mom and Healing as Your Grow

Be a Brave Mom and Healing as Your Grow

If there is one thing that is required to be a great mom, it's courage. Bravery. We don't talk about how moms are incredible courageous beings, but on this episode of the MomUp Show, I got to chat with Laura DiFranco, author of Brave Healing: a Guide for Your Journey,...

Mother’s Quest: Navigating the Journey of Motherhood

Mother’s Quest: Navigating the Journey of Motherhood

Living an epic life is the framework and mission behind Mother's Quest, a podcast by Julie Neale, focusing on intimate conversations with a diverse group of inspiring moms. She joined me on the MomUp Show to chat about how moms can navigate the journey through...

5 Indoor Winter Activities for Kids

5 Indoor Winter Activities for Kids

Cabin fever is brutal during the winter, but having some super fun indoor winter activities for kids on standby can help a mom out in a pinch. I literally just spent this entire day feeling like I was losing my damn mind. I had kids crying, whining, watching too much...

Cabin Fever and Motherhood: Emotional Self-Care in Winter

Cabin Fever and Motherhood: Emotional Self-Care in Winter

Winter blues and cabin fever have always been tough for me. But this year, practicing a little emotional self-care has made a huge difference.   From the first days of fall, I have been prepping for right now with my emotional self-care routines. The countdown on...

8 Self-Care Articles Moms Need to Read

8 Self-Care Articles Moms Need to Read

Yeah, we know self-care is essential for moms, but most of us are still slacking. That's why we're rounding up the best 8 self-care articles for moms to read ASAP. Some of these will give you some ideas on quick self-care practices, and some are just mom getting super...

8 Reasons to Love Your Body Postpartum

8 Reasons to Love Your Body Postpartum

It might be hard to even feel comfortable in your body, let alone love your body, when you've had kids. I remember being afraid to even touch my vagina for a while after my births because I was worried about what I would find, let alone how I cringed at my stretch...

Motherhood Almost Broke Me Today

Motherhood Almost Broke Me Today

I was angrily folding up the stroller and tossing it in the back of the car when I heard a baby start crying. He finally realized he didn’t have his airplane in his hands and it was a total catastrophe. But it wasn’t his little meltdown that had me on edge. It was my...

How I’m Getting to Know Myself Again with a Depth Year

How I’m Getting to Know Myself Again with a Depth Year

Resolutions, words of the year, goals. There are so many things to think about when planning your next year, but what about a depth year? What's a depth year anyway? I'm a stay-at-home mom. I am not in some fancy career, but I still am always focused on personal...

This is What an Overwhelmed Mom Looks Like

This is What an Overwhelmed Mom Looks Like

I snapped this photo to remember this moment when I realized I was totally an overwhelmed mom, and even if I was #blessed, life was also really really hard. I was a little over 24 hours into being a mom of three, and I was already an overwhelmed mom. After a long long...

How to Achieve Goals Even if You’re Overwhelmed

How to Achieve Goals Even if You’re Overwhelmed

Crushing your goals and completing resolutions is hard. There's a lot of reasons people fail all the time. But there are ways to set yourself up for success and learn how to achieve your goals even if you're already overwhelmed. I'm a mom of three kids five and under....

Being a Mom is Hard. It’s Not Just You.

Being a Mom is Hard. It’s Not Just You.

Today was one of those days when it all just hit me. Being a mom is hard, and sometimes it feels like you're failing. Like maybe you're just not a good mom. But it's not you. It's just that hard. A few months ago I was chatting with a new mom who on the outside seemed...

Do Twins Run in Families?

Do Twins Run in Families?

As a twinmom, people always ask if there are twins in the family. It's common knowledge, but how do twins run in families? We’ve all heard twins run in families, but few people really know why, how, or if twins are genetic. So let's answer the question, if and why do...

…and Now I’m a Dance Mom (No One Warned Me How Intense it Is!)

…and Now I’m a Dance Mom (No One Warned Me How Intense it Is!)

Today was my 5-year-old daughter’s very first dance recital, ever. I was not prepared. When she started soccer, I was not prepared emotionally for it, but this time, I was pretty well armed for all the feels. Especially when it came to realize how much she’s growing...

100 Word of the Year Ideas to Live Your Best MomLife

100 Word of the Year Ideas to Live Your Best MomLife

2019 is winding down, and preparations for 2020 are already underway for many. Instead of a resolution, have you thought about trying one of these word fo the year ideas? I love these 100 word of the year ideas you can use as a way to guide your intentions, goals,...

20 Mom Memes We Can Totally Relate To

20 Mom Memes We Can Totally Relate To

Sometimes you need some inspiration, and sometimes you need to laugh. These are mom memes we can all relate to whether they're funny, true, serious, or silly. I don't know about you, but on those tough when that I just need a little distraction from the chaos of...

15 Quotes for Following Your Dreams

15 Quotes for Following Your Dreams

Dreaming of accomplishing some big goals soon? These quotes for following your dreams will keep you going when you need some inspiration.   Need some inspirational quotes for following your dreams? When you are setting big goals for yourself, you'll inevitably...

Stomach Bug? Try a Smoothie for Flu that’s Toddler Approved

Stomach Bug? Try a Smoothie for Flu that’s Toddler Approved

Need to get some nutrition in your little one ASAP when they have a stomach bug? Try a smoothie for flu that is delicious AND nutritious. A few years ago, when my daughter who was then a toddler had the stomach flu, I jotted down this post to give other moms some...

7 Fitness Tips for Moms to Reach Your Fitness Goals

7 Fitness Tips for Moms to Reach Your Fitness Goals

facebookinstagrampinterest Setting your sights on crushing some fitness goals? Let's talk about 7 fitness tips for moms the help you reach those goals more easily.   I've been there. I've had goals that I surpassed and felt like a total badass for accomplishing....

What is Hygge, and Why Moms Need to Know About It

What is Hygge, and Why Moms Need to Know About It

For many of us, Winter is fastly approaching, bringing with it a feeling hibernation. Time to snuggle in and get cozy, and get acquainted with what is Hygge. My kids and I love spending time outdoors. We like hiking and playing in our backyard. When the weather is...

5 Steps to Forming Habits for Busy Moms

5 Steps to Forming Habits for Busy Moms

The only thing that might be as hard as quitting an old habit, is forming habits you want to cultivate. These 5 steps will help you start new habits, and actually keep them. This last year I have been extra committed to making some improvements in my life. I didn’t...

5 Things I’ve Learned from 5 Years of Motherhood

5 Things I’ve Learned from 5 Years of Motherhood

My firstborn recently turned 5 years old, and it has been a bit of an emotional roller coaster. But I now feel like I've crossed some threshold in motherhood, and would love to impart the bits of wisdom I've accumulated to you. These are five of the many lessons I've...

25 Christmas Bucket List Ideas for Moms

25 Christmas Bucket List Ideas for Moms

Need ideas for your Christmas bucket list? These are the 25 things I chose to add to ours this year, and am sharing to give you a bit of inspiration. But before we dive in... What is a Christmas bucket list? Simple. It's just a list of activities you want to do during...

Grateful vs. Thankful, What’s the Difference?

Grateful vs. Thankful, What’s the Difference?

As I sat down to think about all that I am grateful for on this Thanksgiving, I started to wonder, what's the difference in being grateful vs. thankful? Do you ever notice how we use some words interchangeably without really knowing if they mean the same thing? We...

Why Boys Need to See Frozen 2

Why Boys Need to See Frozen 2

Frozen fever has overtaken my home, and it isn't just my little 5-year-old princess belting out the songs. My tiny princes, just 2-years-old, can be heard uttering the phrase "let it go." The first Frozen broke the mold when it comes to Disney princess movies, and...

Dear Moms, Please Never Give Up On Your Dreams.

Dear Moms, Please Never Give Up On Your Dreams.

Feeling a little trapped in motherhood? Being a mom is the most rewarding role, but that doesn't mean we don't have an identity outside of our momlife. It's hard, but mama, never give up on your dreams, even when it seems impossible. Saying to never give up on your...

My Firstborn Turns 5 Tomorrow, and I Can’t Handle It

My Firstborn Turns 5 Tomorrow, and I Can’t Handle It

On November 24, 2014, at 6:54 am I became a mom for the first time. My daughter came into the world screaming with eyes so dark they were black and just a little bit of hair that would turn into the perfect ringlet curls. A fierce little girl who knows what she wants...

Can’t Sleep While Pregnant? Steal My Pregnant Sleep Routine.

Can’t Sleep While Pregnant? Steal My Pregnant Sleep Routine.

Pregnancy is NOT the most comfortable time in your life, and that can make it hard to fall asleep and stay asleep. It’s normal if you can’t sleep while pregnant, but there are some hacks you can try to catch a few more zzz’s. Of course, I'm not a medical professional....

Resilience for Kids. Why I’m Teaching My Kids How to Fail.

Resilience for Kids. Why I’m Teaching My Kids How to Fail.

The older I get, the more I believe the key to happiness and success is being willing to fail. This doesn't mean you have to seek out failure, but rather it's about learning how to fail in a way that propels you forward and helps you learn. I grew up a smart kid. I...

Steal These Gift Ideas. My Kids Christmas List This Year.

Steal These Gift Ideas. My Kids Christmas List This Year.

Feeling overwhelmed with filling out your kids Christmas list this year? Use my list for my 2-year-olds and 5-year-old as inspiration Despite my best attempts to keep things to a minimum when writing my kids Christmas list, I went a little overboard with Christmas the...

Gratitude for Kids: Teaching Whiney Kids to Be Grateful

Gratitude for Kids: Teaching Whiney Kids to Be Grateful

Ever have one of those days when your 4-year-old whines and complains one too many times, and you think maybe you've totally failed and your kid is 100% spoiled? Me too. That's why I started diving into ways to teach gratitude for kids. Your little angel turning into...

How to Put Yourself First When You’re a Mom

How to Put Yourself First When You’re a Mom

Moms do it all. Supermoms. Take care of everyone and all their needs. There's just one thing moms aren't so great at it... it's learning how to put yourself first when you're a mom. How often do you pine for some alone time, but then it never quite pans out how you...

3 Simple Ways to Be a Mindful Mom

3 Simple Ways to Be a Mindful Mom

It is so easy to get overwhelmed and stressed out as a mom, am I right? The easiest way to combat it is to become more present and a more mindful mom to ditch the stress and chill the F out. What does it even mean to be a mindful mom? Glad you asked. Let's talk about...

6 Types of Self Care Moms Need to Know About

6 Types of Self Care Moms Need to Know About

Did you know there are different types of self care? Yeah... me neither. But identifying them is actually REALLY important to understand how to take care of your whole being. There are 6 types of self-care, in general. Some will claim 5, and some 7, but for me, this...

Is it Safe to Drink Alcohol While Breastfeeding?

Is it Safe to Drink Alcohol While Breastfeeding?

Been counting down the days the end of pregnancy to finally pop a bottle of your fav rosé and celebrate? But you might be wondering, is it safe to drink alcohol while breastfeeding, we have your answer. There's a lot of misinformation about consuming alcohol while...

3 Keys to Create a Daily Routine with Kids for Less Stress

3 Keys to Create a Daily Routine with Kids for Less Stress

I used to fly by the seat of my pants. No schedule, no rhythm, no routine. But when I switched to a consistent daily routine with kids, my life got so much easier. Any seasoned mom will tell you a daily routine with kids is really important. I had a somewhat loose...

What Are STEM toys? The Coolest Gifts for Kids.

What Are STEM toys? The Coolest Gifts for Kids.

Looking for the coolest gifts for kids that are also educational? I have the answer. Let's talk about what are STEM toys and why they rock! First, let's get a handle on what are stem toys exactly, and then we will talk about some awesome examples of STEM toys for...