There’s more to how to make a baby than the good old birds and bees talk you got as an adolescent. Many adults have knowledge gaps when it comes to trying to conceive, so let’s fill them in so you can get pregnant faster.
Have you been doing it like rabbits for months now, but like clockwork, Aunt Flo comes to visit every month so your wondering if you even know how to make a baby? What’s the deal? You’re probably thinking, why am I not getting pregnant?
How long does it take to get pregnant?
Most couples who are trying to get pregnant are able to conceive within six months. According to research, around 80% will conceive by the six month mark, and 85% will conceive by one year.
But if you have been trying for some months and still no baby, don’t get too worried yet. You may just not be doing it right! Not the sex part… I’m sure you’ve got that sorted out.
Rather, you may not be doing it at the right time.
How to make a baby with the right timing. When do you have to have sex to get pregnant?
You have to have sex within your fertile window.
I say “your” assuming this is a mom or woman reading this. But if you’re a man, just know that unless you have some underlying issues making you sterile, you are fertile ALL the time.
Women, on the other hand, are only fertile for a few days a month, right around the time of ovulation.
I’m going to outline how to can know when you’re ovulating. This is actually the method I personally used to get pregnant, and I was able to conceive within three months of going off the pill.
When is the fertile window? When do women ovulate?
We’ve all been told that most women ovulate on day 14 of their cycle.
Well, that really isn’t true. Many women will ovulate around day 14, but you could be like me. I usually ovulate around day 12. How do I know that? Glad you asked.
I’m going to lay out here how you can know exactly when you’re ovulating, so you can make sure you are having sex during your fertile window, the few days a month where it is most likely you will conceive if you have sex so you’ll know exactly how to make a baby faster.
Ok. We need to first understand the phases of your cycle. Your menstrual cycle is broken up into menstruation, the follicular phase, ovulation, and the luteal phase.
Ya know that annoying time of month that you bleed for 5-7 days (more or less)? That is the beginning of your menstrual cycle, and is also known as menstruation.
The day you begin your period is the first day of your menstrual cycle, and the cycle lasts until the beginning of the next menstrual cycle.
The follicular phase is the next phase, and is the time period where an egg matures and gets ready to drop and go party with some sper.
Ovulation is when that egg finally drops and is ready to be fertilized for 12-24 hours.
Finally there is the luteal phase where the lining of your uterus gets nice and soft for a fertilized egg to implant. Your luteal phase will generally be about the same length in time every month, but the length can vary from woman to woman and lasts from ovulation until your next period or you become pregnant.
Why is it important to know the phases of the menstrual cycle?
These phases are important to know when trying to track your fertility. If you don’t know what phase you’re in, you don’t know if you’re close to ovulation or not.
What you need to do for the most success in getting pregnant faster is chart these phases of your cycle. It may sound a little complicated at first, but I swear it is easy once you start.
How do you chart your menstrual cycle?
There are a few things you’re going to be tracking during your cycle to check for fertility.
Cervical Fluid aka Cervical Mucus (CM) –
Yes, this sounds weird and a little gross if you’re new to the idea, but it is the most important thing to keep track of if you want to find out when you’re ovulating.
This is a semen-like fluid that is produced when you are nearing ovulation. It helps protect the sperm and makes sure it stays alive long enough to make it to the egg.
If you do not have fertile cervical fluid, the sperm will not be able to make the long journey. This is super important to remember when trying to conceive and why most people really don’t understand how to make a baby.
Here’s a breakdown of the stages of cervical fluid and what to look for:
- After your period ends, you should be pretty “dry” with no or very little cervical fluid. This is not fertile.
- A few days later, you will start to notice “sticky” fluid. This is possibly fertile, but not your most fertile.
- Next up is “creamy.” This will kind of remind you of a lotion-like look and texture. If you see this kind of fluid, you know you’re starting to get close, and should be fertile soon.
- Here’s what you really want to look for. “Eggwhite” cervical mucus. It looks just like the name implies, egg whites. It should be stretchy. So if you want to try, it could stretch a few inches between your fingers. You may also notice a lot of moisture or wetness during this time. This indicates you are fertile and will ovulate soon.
- Sometimes after the eggwhite, you might also notice what is considered “wet” cm too.
- After ovulation, you will dry up pretty quickly. There may be some fertile looking fluid, but you should notice a decrease.
Basal Body Temperature (BBT)
BBT is simply the temperature of your body at rest.
Tracking your BBT will help you start to predict when you will ovulate. After you ovulate, your BBT will rise slightly. So this data will only show you that you have in fact ovulated, but you won’t be able to use it to predict when you will ovulate until you’ve been tracking your ovulation for a couple of months. Then you can start to see a pattern of when your BBT usually rises.
How do you take your basal body temperature (BBT)?
Don’t just randomly take your temperature every day. Your body temperature can change during the day based on the weather, exercise, emotions, whatever. So you want to follow these guidelines for tracking your BBT.
- Take your temperature using a digital thermometer that measures to the .00 degree. This will ensure it is as accurate as possible.
- Use the same thermometer for the entire month. Different thermometers may act different and it’s super important to have consistency.
- Take your temperature BEFORE getting out of bed in the morning and BEFORE you do any other activities. Be sure this is at the same time every day.
- Take your temp after getting at least 3 hours of sleep.
- You can take your temp orally, or vaginally. Supposedly, vaginally is most accurate, but I just didn’t feel like dealing with that and took mine orally.
- Record your temp ASAP so you don’t forget!
If you didn’t feel like you knew your body well enough, here is your chance to get real up close and personal with your vagina.
Another sign of fertility is the position, firmness and openness of your cervix.
Right after your period, before you’re fertile, your cervix will be low, hard and closed. As you get closer to your fertile window, it will begin to soften, open up and get higher.
Now you can check your cervix every day by simply reaching in there and feeling for it. It will feel kind of like the tip of your nose towards the back of your vagina.
(If you don’t want to do this, it is not necessary for tracking your fertility. It is, however, an additional indicator than can help you pinpoint fertility.)
Record the data
You can use a simple spreadsheet or notebook, but I recommend using an app like Kindara to keep track Not only does it record all the info, but it can help predict when you will have your peak fertile day based on the data.
If you want to get even more info on tracking your fertility, I highly recommend the book Taking Chart of Your Fertility. It is an amazing resource for learning all the in’s and out’s of trying to conceive and learning how to make a baby so you can get pregnant faster!
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