8 Reasons to Love Your Body Postpartum

8 Reasons to Love Your Body Postpartum

It might be hard to even feel comfortable in your body, let alone love your body, when you’ve had kids.

I remember being afraid to even touch my vagina for a while after my births because I was worried about what I would find, let alone how I cringed at my stretch marks and extra skin. But over time, I did learn to love my body.

Here are eight reasons to embrace and love your body postpartum, even if you don’t have that lovin’ feeling right now

It created, grew, and birthed your babies

Let’s get the obvious one out of the way first, ok?

We know our bodies created our babies, was there home for around nine months, and then gave birth to them… but how often do you really think about how much of a miracle that is?

So often we are caught up in getting our pre-baby bodies back, as if we somehow misplaced it, that we don’t properly honor the magic created.

The next time you feel a little down on yourself and the way your body looks or feels now, take a minute to just let it sink in how amazing you and your body really are for what you went through.

Your postpartum body is the perfect comfort for your babies (or older children too!)

Squishy postpartum bodies are the best places to nap and cuddle according to every baby I’ve ever surveyed.

And even if you’re skinny, your baby knows your smell. The feel of your skin. The way you move.

Your body didn’t stop being home to them the second they popped out of the womb. It is still home to them.

It’s sexy AF

The results are in, and even though WE might be super self-conscious about our postpartum bodies, our partners LOVE them.

As a bit of anecdotal evidence, I asked my husband what he thinks about my body since having kids and he simply replied: “It’s fucking hot.”

It’s not just him either, though I do think he’s *quite* special in his own way, he is absolutely not on this one. Pretty much all dudes surveyed said the still find their wives super hot, and many even more than before!

Your body is a walking history of your growth as a person

I can still look at my knee and see the scar from a bike accident I had in middle school.

I don’t judge myself for that mark of perfect imperfection that carries with it memories of times otherwise forgotten. So why would I judge myself for some extra squishiness and stretch marks from having babies? Certainly having kids is a much more rewarding piece of my history than a silly bike mishap.

Our body carries our history. The transformation that has taken place in our body is just a physical manifestation of the deeper transformations that happened to our souls when we became moms.

It’s the only one you get

Just go ahead and love your body because the truth is, it’s the only one you get.

No matter how you feel about the way your body functions or looks now, there isn’t some standby waiting in the wings. You can trade this body in. Even with plastic surgery, there are limits to how much you can change your body.

This isn’t to say you can’t make changes to it, or that it’s wrong to desire to look differently. We all wish we could change something about ourselves. We aren’t perfect. No one is.

But I’d suggest figuring out how to make peace and love your body because it’s what you have. The other option is to live the rest of your life hating yourself.

Sex is better after having kids

Yeah it’s true you might not feel like having sex for a while after having a baby, and most couples have less sex after kids… but the sex you DO have is awesome.

Hard to believe, but most people surveyed said sex was just as good or even better after having kids.

I was surprised to find that this is true in my life too! Maybe it’s because having less sex makes you appreciate what you DO have, but it definitely improves.

Superhuman mom strength

Mom muscles are legit.

Lifting those babies and kids around all day means that you start to get really strong.

I don’t work out on a regular basis, but I’m in better shape than I was in my 20’s! Mostly it’s just from chasing after these wildlings and carrying them around from dawn to dusk and sometimes all damn night too.

It’s so normal to feel uncomfortable with your new postpartum body whether it’s been hours or years since you gave birth. But it is possible to love your body after having babies, and I hope these are great reminders on why.

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Need to get some nutrition in your little one ASAP when they have a stomach bug? Try a smoothie for flu that is delicious AND nutritious.

A few years ago, when my daughter who was then a toddler had the stomach flu, I jotted down this post to give other moms some ideas of what to feed their sick little ones. This smoothie for flu symptoms worked really well for my daughter then and might help you get through this flu season.

(Just a quick heads up that this post contains affiliate links, meaning if you purchase something I recommend then I get a small commission at no extra cost to you.)

Fair warning. This post may get a little gross. But I’ve come to realize that is one thing motherhood is… gross.

Yes, there are those beautiful moments of cradling your sleeping child and feeling like everything in the world is right.

Then, there are the times you’re cleaning poop out of your bed.

Today, we’re talking about the latter. 

We are currently on day six of my toddler, Carolyn’s, first real stomach bug. Thankfully we have had no vomiting (fingers crossed it stays that way).

However, I’ve been up to my elbows in the nastiest poop with which I’ve had the pleasure of coming in contact. I keep expecting it to pass, and I haven’t been super concerned because she shows no signs of dehydration. Besides the occasional crankiness, she’s mostly been her normal self.

But I’ve reached the point where I feel I need to do something to help.

Google is my number one mommy tool (besides calling a doc when it warrants it). Unfortunately I got a ton of conflicting information on toddler tummy troubles.

What do you feed a child with a stomach virus?

The most recurring advice was to follow the B.R.A.T. diet for them. That stands for bananas, rice, applesauce and toast.

Supposedly these are easiest for an upset stomach to digest. Then, I read that this diet is too restrictive and that there’s not a lot of evidence that it helps at all, or parents stick with it too long. In fact, some sources pointed said it is better to try to give your kid a more rounded diet to keep them well-fed, making it easier for them to recover from the illness. 

So, what’s a mommy to do?

Well I decided to kind of combine all this into a pretty simple strategy.

First, keep pushing the fluids on her. If breastfeeding, that’s a great way to get fluids and nutrition to babies and toddlers, but water is also awesome.

Then I’ve come up with this smoothie concoction that includes some of the B.R.A.T. foods, probiotics, and some supplemental nutrition.

Of course, if your kid is sick, don’t just take my advice but call your pediatrician, please!

Smoothie for flu symptoms

Honestly, I totally eyeballed the ingredients, but I will try to give you an idea of measurements as well as why I chose each ingredient.

Once you have your ingredients, just throw them in the blender and liquefy! 

1 Banana – This is recommended as part of the B.R.A.T. diet

1/2 cup organic vanilla greek yogurt – You could really use any kind of yogurt you like, but this is our favorite. I added this because she loves yogurt and because it contains probiotics to help with digestion.

1/2 cup applesauce – Another food recommended in the B.R.A.T. diet

1/2 cup of white grape juice – I saw this recommended as an alternative to sports drinks or Pedialyte to help with hydration. 

1 tbsp Green Vibrance – There are a ton of different products you can use like this, but this is the brand I like and have been using for years. It’s basically green drink in a powder, lots of superfoods in powder form. I add this to give her a little extra something in her diet. 

Let me know how you and your little one like this recipe for a smoothie for flu in the comments below!

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Setting your sights on crushing some fitness goals? Let’s talk about 7 fitness tips for moms the help you reach those goals more easily.

 

I’ve been there. I’ve had goals that I surpassed and felt like a total badass for accomplishing. Then I’ve had ones that sank like the Titanic. Just call me Rose. But these fitness tips for moms are ones that are tried and true. They can really help set you up for success.

So let’s dive in mamas.

Though let me also say that it is totally ok for you to have exactly 0 fitness goals either. I’ve been going through a 5-year long journey to finally accept my mombod, and it hasn’t been easy.

It’s ok to not lose the baby weight and just be happy too. <3

Fitness Tips for Moms #1: Set Goals You Actually Care About

Before we even get into how to reach your fitness goals, let’s make sure you are actually setting them properly.

Why do you want to set fitness goals? What is the point? Is it because you feel like you “should?” Feeling pressure to get your pre-baby body back?

Let me be honest, mama.

You won’t get your pre-baby body back

Once you’ve had a kid, your body has changed forever. There is no going back. Even if you were able to work out, get plastic surgery, find some mythical cream that actually eliminates stretch marks, you’re still different on the inside.

That’s right. Even if you appear to have the same body you did pre-pregnancy (which is unlikely) your body has changed so significantly on the inside, it will never be exactly the same.

Hell, your sweet baby even left some of their DNA inside of you that can affect you for decades to come!

So perhaps, reframing this idea of getting your body “back” is in order.

There is nothing wrong with want to be fit, or wanting to look a certain way. It’s totally great if you want to change your appearance.

We all change our appearance in small or large ways by things like wearing makeup, straightening or curling our hair, or even getting plastic surgery. (I know a mom who had a tummy tuck because her diastasis recti bothered her not just in appearance, but physically too.)

But isn’t it time we change the way we think about our postpartum bodies. Is looking as if we never had a kid something all moms must aspire to? Isn’t just feeling good in our postpartum body enough?

Just something to think about.

I know I have fitness goals that even include losing weight, but I also know that even when I am at a weight that feels good for me, my body is forever changed.

(Read more about my postpartum body journey on Facebook at the post below, and follow me at facebook.com/momuprising)

 

What is your REAL motivation? How do you want to FEEL when you accomplish your goals?

Social media is a beautiful thing… but it can be so toxic too.

According to body-positive influencer and fitness instructor, Nikki Pebbles, “Things are so skewed to what we’re expecting when starting a fitness journey due to Instagram, Social media, magazines, all of that. So I think first comes first. Learning that your body isn’t going to be what it was 10 years ago, 4 years ago, or even 6 months ago. Your body is what it is now, and when we stop and think about fitness being more than just a physical goal and more of an ‘I want to FEEL good. I want FEEL different.'”

Nikki is so right. We get caught up on a mom who is 8 months pregnant and still has abs on Instagram (yeah that’s a real thing…), and we start to feel like crap that our belly is super flabby when we are 2 years postpartum. Until we saw that post, or whatever the post of the day is, we felt pretty great about ourselves. Now all of a sudden we need to lose weight and do 5 billion crunches before the end of the month.

Slow down.

Before setting any goals, feel into them. What is the real motivation behind them?

Fitness Tips for Moms #2: Start Small

I know our impulse is usually to totally overhaul our life ASAP, right?

You decide you want to lose that extra 10lbs you got from eating #allthethings around the holidays so you order that hardcore exercise program you saw on an infomercial while half-awake doing a night feel, right?

I’ve totally done that. Expecting myself to go from breastfeeding being my cardio to doing high-intensity workouts every day for like a year right away. I think because I was an athlete in high school that my almost 33-year-old self can still do some serious workouts, but the truth? I good walk around the neighborhood is about where I’m at right now.

It would serve me much better (and probably you too) to start with a small simple goal of just getting out for a walk with the kids every day.

Sunshine Boatright, creator of the Health and Vitality experience says, “Start from where you are, make that your baseline. Make small incremental changes from there. Because working your way up over time is way better than getting started, going all in, and hurting yourself so much that you can’t move and can’t face going back. It’s also, in my humble opinion, the best way to fall in love with the process instead of the destination. Because destinations can be deceiving.” 

Fitness Tips for Moms #3: Make it a routine

A great way to start small is by making fitness part of your daily routine.

I love talking about self-care and self-care routines, and I’ve made a point of having fitness be part of my morning self-care routine. But I started super small.

At the recommendation of yoga instructor and habit expert, Dana Skoglund, I’ve started doing the 7-minute workout in the mornings. The 7-minute workout is so awesome because you definitely feel like you got some exercise, but at less than 10 minutes long it isn’t overwhelming.

But it has been scientifically proven to be as good as longer workouts because of the way different exercises are strung together in an intense way.

Dana also has the great tip of getting in the habit of setting yourself up for success. For example, she says, “For people who have no time, put your running shoes at the foot of your bed and your workout clothes out the night before.”

Then when you wake up in the morning it will trigger you to get your work out.

Changing up habits and routine is hard! When you’ve been doing things the same way for months or years, switching things around doesn’t stick well.

So start small and gradually build to where you want to go, and also connect that new action to something else that basically triggers the new habit.

For example, I have been working on the habit of taking vitamins and drinking water first thing in the morning. I’m pretty rock-solid in it now, and I’m ready to expand. So now I am adding in the habit of doing the 7-minute workout after I take my vitamins.

Maybe the secret to reaching your fitness goal through habits is actually to just get in the habit of drinking a glass of water and taking vitamins every morning.

Fitness Tips for Moms #4: Find a friend

Accountability makes it more likely you’ll actually stick with your goals and reach them.

The trick though? You need to be held accountable by someone you respects and believe in to be successful.

So even though the obvious choice would be to find someone at the same level of fitness as you to hold you accountable, you’re better off finding someone who is at or close to the level you want to achieve.

Recent studies have shown this to be the case, so choose your accountability buddy wisely.

Fitness Tips for Moms #5: Find free childcare

Getting time to work out can be rough when you have kids. But did you know there are tons of places that offer free childcare for you while you workout?

All of the YMCA’s have childcare available for free with your membership, and even some regular gyms have it too.

If that’s not an option you can see if a mom friend would swap watching the kids so you can each work out or have alone time.

Also, my go-to is to just to involve my kids in my exercise. Think jogging with a stroller, walking, hiking, playing outside, etc.

Sometimes it takes creativity, but childcare really isn’t an issue if you are committed to your goals.

Fitness Tips for Moms #6: Track your progress

When I’m working on accomplishing goals and creating new habits, I’ve started to actually not even focus on completing the goal.

Instead, my focus is just on remembering to track whether I completed whatever task I needed to that day to reach my goal or establish the habit.

I am super forgetful. I will have this great plan or idea or goal, have all the best intentions in the world, but it just won’t happen. It’s not even because I chose to ignore it, but because I just forgot!

Now I have a little log in my journal that I mark every day on whether I completed my habit or not. Nothing fancy, just a list with the date and little checks or x’s next to them.

Fitness Tips for Moms #7: Focus on progress, not perfection

When I first started tracking my progress on my goals, I would stop even trying when I missed too many days.

I felt like if I started missing days, then I had to just give up and start all over again.

But that’s not how it works at all.

Doing my 7-minute workout, or yoga, or remembering to intermittent fasting… whatever the goal is… it’s better to have done it one day in a week than no days in a week.

It’s taken a lot of mindset work to get to this point, but now I am happy with ANY growth. ANY movement forward. ANY progress towards where I want to go, I count as a win!

 

Do you have fitness goals for 2020? Are these fitness tips for moms helpful? Let us know in the comments, and then check out this article about how to achieve your goals even if you’re overwhelmed.

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My internal battle over learning to accept and love my body rages on each day. Today I was reminded of how I never did lose the baby weight, and my jeans don’t fit.

My jeans don’t fit because my body just keeps wanting to hold onto weight even though I exercise and eat pretty damn well. I’ve been dealing with it well. I’ve been accepting and loving myself even though I didn’t lose the baby weight… then this morning happened.

My good morning was ended by the sound of a “riiiiiipppppp.”

As I knelt down to play with one of my twins, my favorite pair of jeans ripped right up the inside of my right leg.

I had noticed as I put them on this morning that they were just a smidge too tight. They weren’t quite as comfy as I remember them being even just a month or two ago.

Bummed, I threw the old jeans out after briefly considering and discarding the idea of repairing them. That’s when things just got even worse.

Pair after pair of jeans got tossed to the side as I realized it wasn’t just the one pair that was a problem. When I say my jeans don’t fit I mean jeans as in like… all of my jeans.

Not a single pair felt right. They all dug in at uncomfortable or unflattering angles. I guess I just didn’t notice so much until recently because well, I live in yoga pants like any self-respecting mom.

Right now I weigh more than I ever have in my life, besides when I was pregnant. Not only do I have “baby weight,” but I have some extra I’ve put on over the last year as well.

It’s one thing to know you’ve gained some weight. It’s another for an overstuffed pair of jeans ripping up the crotch to give you a news flash about it.

This sent me into quite a tailspin first thing in the morning. I did find a pair of jeans that somewhat fit after digging through all the clean laundry baskets for a stray pair of leggings or yoga pants to no avail.

But even that one pair that kind of fit still made me feel like I had to really squeeze in and suck in just about all day.

Did I mention this all happened before a single sip of coffee had hit my lips?

Look, first world problems, I know. No coffee and no clothes that are 100% comfy. There are so many people out there who have it way worse than my chubby butt does, but once acknowledging that, it still doesn’t erase the real pain that hits me when body image issues arise within me.

Since my early teen years, I’ve struggled with body image and disordered eating.

I remember being a varsity athlete in High School and still shoveling down diet pills and restricting my food because I didn’t look like Britney Spears. Literally.

Thinking about it now, it sounds absurd. But the shame over what I perceived to be a terrible and ugly body was real, and it’s still real to this day.

If I had a dollar for every time I’ve seen a mom in a group ask how to lose the baby weight when she literally just had a baby drop out of her vagina a week ago… I’d be able to at least buy a few salted caramel mocha fraps.

Seriously though, the expectations on us to try to morph a body that went through an enormous transformation back into some semblance of what it was before another human inhabited it is ludicrous. Yet it is still real.

When I was pregnant with my first I just couldn’t fathom how I would deal with getting stretch marks. Like my brain couldn’t handle that possibility because NO ONE in my life or in the media ever made it seem normal to have stretch marks. The only thing I ever saw were women decrying their lost bodies and the baby weight and belly pudge that wouldn’t budge.

There isn’t a single time I can remember a single person praising a woman’s body except for its power to be a sexual object. And look, I love being and feeling sexy. That’s awesome too. But it is only ONE of the powers of a woman’s body.

I have times when I can look at my postpartum mombod in the mirror and appreciate it, even love it, even find it sexy. Then there are days when my jeans rip and I feel like a total failure at life.

Because for me, it isn’t just that I feel a little bad because I don’t have a perfect body. No. I am hit with a feeling of complete unworthiness. Like I am a terrible human being.

This part of me that will always and only see myself as disgusting no matter what size I am isn’t something I can easily reason with.

I know that I’m worthy. I know that I’m a good person and a good mom. But the poison that causes me to think otherwise is deep. So deep it’s hard to even access or understand how much it pervades my view of myself.

There is one thing I DIDN’T want to do when this mountain of shame landed on me this morning… I didn’t want to ignore it. Yet, I didn’t want to get sucked under by it or use it as a means to punish myself for my perceived flaws.

What did I do? I tried to do the most love thing I could muster for myself in the moment.

I went online and I ordered two new pairs of jeans in a size up.

In January, I’ll be 33. While I haven’t had depression, anxiety, body image issues, and who knows what else literally my entire life, but it feels like it sometimes. Plus, I’ve certainly dealt with them my entire adult life.

The one trick that I’ve found to be able to live with it is total acceptance.

So today I didn’t even try to convince myself that I was hot. I didn’t try to convince myself that I deserved to feel sexy even though I’m not what my brains says I should be all the time.

Instead, I just said to myself, “I deserve to be cared for no matter what.”

I wasn’t arguing with the voice in my head about whether I’m good enough or not. What I did was sidestep this internal dialogue and decide that it doesn’t matter if I’m good enough. I deserve love and care whether the judge in my head says I’m good enough or not.

That means on Wednesday, I’ll be looking for a package with some new skinny and boyfriend jeans in them that will actually fit and feel totally comfortable on my cellulite covered ass.

Being a mom is hard. Adjusting to a new body and realizing “my jeans don’t fit” is hard. Loving your body every day when you still have the baby weight is hard.

But whatever happens, you deserve care, you deserve love, and you deserve to be your own ally no matter what that little voice in your head says.

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On the fence about whether you’re ready to use a menstrual cup? Here’s why I made the switch and never looked back!

It can be a bit intimidating when you start thinking about if you want to use a menstrual cup, but once you get into it, it turns out to be so simple and easy, you’ll wonder why you didn’t do it sooner.

(Heads up, this post contains affiliate links, meaning if you purchase with my link I get a small commission at no extra cost to you.)

Let’s be real. Tampons kind of suck.

I’ve been annoyed my whole life that every month I have to shell out money for tampons. Not to mention I am not the best planner and somehow always forget to pack tampons in my bag during my period.

This has led to me shelling out more money when I inevitably end up with some ruined panties. We all have those period panties hanging around that we don’t mind getting stained, right? But some are beyond rescue…  

Not to mention it can’t be good for the environment to keep sending trash cans full of paper and tampons out to the landfill every month. Plus, there is a concern that many popular brands of tampons contain chemicals that might be quite toxic.

So I decided after having my first child that it was time to switch to a menstrual cup.

The brand I had heard the most about was the Diva Cup, so that’s what I went with.

Before I get too deep into my personal experience, let me outline the benefits if you use a menstrual cup. 

  1. You only need one (or two if you want a backup)! Just make one purchase and it will last you a very very long time.  So it is a big money saver. 
  2. You can leave it in for up to 12 hours. So no stressing about making sure you have your purse stocked up before leaving the house.  
  3. No leaks. If inserted properly, it creates a seal, and nothing is escaping it! 

The biggest reason I hadn’t switched before was that I looked at them and thought, “that just doesn’t look comfortable.” 

I was expecting a somewhat rigid and harder plastic cup, but it’s not at all like that! The cups are usually made out of safe silicone that bends and flexes so you can fold it for easy insertion, and once it, you don’t even notice it anymore.

Then I also found out that there are actually two versions. One for women who have had a baby, and one for those who haven’t. So I was expecting since I had a baby that it would be bigger and bulky and cumbersome.

Again, I was surprised by just how comfortable it is. In fact, it is even MORE comfortable than a tampon for two reasons.

First, tampons tended to shift around in my vagina as they started absorbing liquid, sometimes in not so comfortable ways. Second, tampons don’t just absorb menstrual fluid, but also all the good fluid your vagina needs for balanced pH levels. Tampons left my vagina a bit dry and itchy after a few days.

But with menstrual cups, if you insert it correctly, you literally can’t tell it is there. At least I couldn’t. 

 

Now there’s the biggest issue for many women… Getting it in. (and dumping it)

That’s probably most women’s stumbling block in making the switch. This was actually way easier than I expected to. Yes, there is a learning curve, but I felt like a pro by about day three.

You’re going to get up close and personal with yourself, but you very quickly get used to that. When Aunt Flo finally left for the month I could remove the cup, clean it, and reinsert in about the time it takes to remove a tampon, unwrap and insert a new one. 

Plus, I had NO… let me say that again… NO leaks the entire week. That is a first! I always had at least one or two leaks with tampons.

When it comes to dumping it, I usually just do it over the toilet or while in the shower. No mess.

Oh, and there is one final awesome benefit. You can totally use the bathroom with it inserted! No need to take it out to go. How awesome is that???

Choosing to use a menstrual cup is a game-changer for your vagina! Seriously, I can’t say enough awesome things. Check out the Diva Cup and other menstrual cups below.

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I decided it’s time to embrace being fat. I’ve tried accepting my new mombod. I’ve tried changing it. I’ve tried to love it for giving me babies and nourishing them.

But what if I try something new and lean into being fat?

What if instead of loving myself and my body even though I’m fat, what if I can rewire my brain to actually see the beauty in my chubby little body?

Maybe I can find a way to embrace my fatness. Can I start seeing my body in the way classical painters saw the curves and dimples of the women they put on the canvas? Can I finally banish those images of Playboy bunnies and 90’s Britney as the ONLY ideals for women?

This is my challenge now. Not to love my body and embrace it for its utility, but to actually see the beauty in cellulite and stomach rolls, stretch marks and thighs with no gap.

I have spent the last 5.5 years either pregnant or breastfeeding. To say my body has gone through some changes would be an understatement. And did I mention that one of those pregnancies was twins?!

I’ve always been a bit chubby. Even when I was at my most fit I still had some cushion for the pushin’ because of how I’m built.

That’s right, even when I literally worked out 5-7 days a week as a high school athlete I had some cellulite on my thighs and my belly wasn’t flat.

Ever since I can remember, I’ve hated my body. Ever since I can remember having an opinion about the way I looked, I hated the way I looked because I was not perfect.

It seems silly to expect perfection of yourself, but perfectionism is something I struggle with. The worst part is that there was never any chance of me having a perfect body just by my genetics. I’m too short and too curvy and too muscular. I do have some big boobs, but they aren’t the perfectly round and perky ones everyone pays for.

And even now at 32 years old, I have been battling this perfectionism, or at least “good enough”-ism. There’s some mystical bar inside of my mind of what I should weigh and how I should look. If I don’t cross that threshold then I’m just not attractive enough or worthy enough.

Worthy… worthy of what? Love? Happiness? Life itself? All of it?

Ugh.

Guess what. I AM worthy of everything and anything. My worthiness, and frankly my sexiness, is NOT dependent on some ideal dress size.

I beautiful and hot just as I am.

Not only that, but I’m actually healthier being fatter.

You this story has a before and after that seems a little backwards at first glance. My “before” from 2018 is a thinner me, and my “after” from the other day is a more chubby and fat version of me.

Why is that a good thing to be thinner? How can that be a good thing if I am healthier now?

For most of 2018, I was separated from my husband while we worked on ourselves and I had an existential crisis while caring for twin babies and a 3-year-old.

The stress led me to start smoking again, drinking a little more than I’d like to admit in the evenings once the kids were in bed, and not eating most of the time. (And not eating in a bad neglectful way, not a healthy intermittent fasting way.)

I wasn’t getting exercise besides chasing the kids around and was overall just neglecting my own physical needs.

Then last fall, my husband and I decided to give it another shot thankfully. I quit smoking, drink much less, and I eat a healthy diet.

Sure there are donuts that slip in there, but for the most part, I eat salads, home-cooked meals, smoothies, fresh juices, and lots of water. I also do intermittent fasting (the 16:8 method) mostly to help ease some issues like psoriasis, which has been super helpful in diminishing.

I also exercise nearly every single day by going on walks and making sure I get over 10k steps in.

But I have STILL gained about 20 lbs.

So you know what that says to me? That being fatter is actually healthier for me!

No matter how much I try to shake the feeling of inadequacy over this fat, the less happy I am. I don’t want to be worried about eating one of the chocolate chip pancakes I make for my kids. I want to eat the damn pancake and enjoy my life.

And if my family genetics are any clue, I’m probably just going to get fatter as I get older. Oh well. As long as I can keep up with my kids (and hopefully someday grandkids), and I FEEL good, then that’s more important than anything else.

For me, enjoying my life means embracing being fat. Not just accepting it, but learning to see myself as actually sexy, beautiful, and totally worthy because my value as a person isn’t based on a few extra pounds.

PS – I love following Meg Boggs for all things body positivity and mommyhood.

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