My Jeans Don’t Fit, I Didn’t Lose the Baby Weight… and That’s OK

My Jeans Don’t Fit, I Didn’t Lose the Baby Weight… and That’s OK

My internal battle over learning to accept and love my body rages on each day. Today I was reminded of how I never did lose the baby weight, and my jeans don’t fit.

My jeans don’t fit because my body just keeps wanting to hold onto weight even though I exercise and eat pretty damn well. I’ve been dealing with it well. I’ve been accepting and loving myself even though I didn’t lose the baby weight… then this morning happened.

My good morning was ended by the sound of a “riiiiiipppppp.”

As I knelt down to play with one of my twins, my favorite pair of jeans ripped right up the inside of my right leg.

I had noticed as I put them on this morning that they were just a smidge too tight. They weren’t quite as comfy as I remember them being even just a month or two ago.

Bummed, I threw the old jeans out after briefly considering and discarding the idea of repairing them. That’s when things just got even worse.

Pair after pair of jeans got tossed to the side as I realized it wasn’t just the one pair that was a problem. When I say my jeans don’t fit I mean jeans as in like… all of my jeans.

Not a single pair felt right. They all dug in at uncomfortable or unflattering angles. I guess I just didn’t notice so much until recently because well, I live in yoga pants like any self-respecting mom.

Right now I weigh more than I ever have in my life, besides when I was pregnant. Not only do I have “baby weight,” but I have some extra I’ve put on over the last year as well.

It’s one thing to know you’ve gained some weight. It’s another for an overstuffed pair of jeans ripping up the crotch to give you a news flash about it.

This sent me into quite a tailspin first thing in the morning. I did find a pair of jeans that somewhat fit after digging through all the clean laundry baskets for a stray pair of leggings or yoga pants to no avail.

But even that one pair that kind of fit still made me feel like I had to really squeeze in and suck in just about all day.

Did I mention this all happened before a single sip of coffee had hit my lips?

Look, first world problems, I know. No coffee and no clothes that are 100% comfy. There are so many people out there who have it way worse than my chubby butt does, but once acknowledging that, it still doesn’t erase the real pain that hits me when body image issues arise within me.

Since my early teen years, I’ve struggled with body image and disordered eating.

I remember being a varsity athlete in High School and still shoveling down diet pills and restricting my food because I didn’t look like Britney Spears. Literally.

Thinking about it now, it sounds absurd. But the shame over what I perceived to be a terrible and ugly body was real, and it’s still real to this day.

If I had a dollar for every time I’ve seen a mom in a group ask how to lose the baby weight when she literally just had a baby drop out of her vagina a week ago… I’d be able to at least buy a few salted caramel mocha fraps.

Seriously though, the expectations on us to try to morph a body that went through an enormous transformation back into some semblance of what it was before another human inhabited it is ludicrous. Yet it is still real.

When I was pregnant with my first I just couldn’t fathom how I would deal with getting stretch marks. Like my brain couldn’t handle that possibility because NO ONE in my life or in the media ever made it seem normal to have stretch marks. The only thing I ever saw were women decrying their lost bodies and the baby weight and belly pudge that wouldn’t budge.

There isn’t a single time I can remember a single person praising a woman’s body except for its power to be a sexual object. And look, I love being and feeling sexy. That’s awesome too. But it is only ONE of the powers of a woman’s body.

I have times when I can look at my postpartum mombod in the mirror and appreciate it, even love it, even find it sexy. Then there are days when my jeans rip and I feel like a total failure at life.

Because for me, it isn’t just that I feel a little bad because I don’t have a perfect body. No. I am hit with a feeling of complete unworthiness. Like I am a terrible human being.

This part of me that will always and only see myself as disgusting no matter what size I am isn’t something I can easily reason with.

I know that I’m worthy. I know that I’m a good person and a good mom. But the poison that causes me to think otherwise is deep. So deep it’s hard to even access or understand how much it pervades my view of myself.

There is one thing I DIDN’T want to do when this mountain of shame landed on me this morning… I didn’t want to ignore it. Yet, I didn’t want to get sucked under by it or use it as a means to punish myself for my perceived flaws.

What did I do? I tried to do the most love thing I could muster for myself in the moment.

I went online and I ordered two new pairs of jeans in a size up.

In January, I’ll be 33. While I haven’t had depression, anxiety, body image issues, and who knows what else literally my entire life, but it feels like it sometimes. Plus, I’ve certainly dealt with them my entire adult life.

The one trick that I’ve found to be able to live with it is total acceptance.

So today I didn’t even try to convince myself that I was hot. I didn’t try to convince myself that I deserved to feel sexy even though I’m not what my brains says I should be all the time.

Instead, I just said to myself, “I deserve to be cared for no matter what.”

I wasn’t arguing with the voice in my head about whether I’m good enough or not. What I did was sidestep this internal dialogue and decide that it doesn’t matter if I’m good enough. I deserve love and care whether the judge in my head says I’m good enough or not.

That means on Wednesday, I’ll be looking for a package with some new skinny and boyfriend jeans in them that will actually fit and feel totally comfortable on my cellulite covered ass.

Being a mom is hard. Adjusting to a new body and realizing “my jeans don’t fit” is hard. Loving your body every day when you still have the baby weight is hard.

But whatever happens, you deserve care, you deserve love, and you deserve to be your own ally no matter what that little voice in your head says.

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Tired of Tampons? Time to Use a Menstrual Cup

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On the fence about whether you’re ready to use a menstrual cup? Here’s why I made the switch and never looked back!

It can be a bit intimidating when you start thinking about if you want to use a menstrual cup, but once you get into it, it turns out to be so simple and easy, you’ll wonder why you didn’t do it sooner.

(Heads up, this post contains affiliate links, meaning if you purchase with my link I get a small commission at no extra cost to you.)

Let’s be real. Tampons kind of suck.

I’ve been annoyed my whole life that every month I have to shell out money for tampons. Not to mention I am not the best planner and somehow always forget to pack tampons in my bag during my period.

This has led to me shelling out more money when I inevitably end up with some ruined panties. We all have those period panties hanging around that we don’t mind getting stained, right? But some are beyond rescue…  

Not to mention it can’t be good for the environment to keep sending trash cans full of paper and tampons out to the landfill every month. Plus, there is a concern that many popular brands of tampons contain chemicals that might be quite toxic.

So I decided after having my first child that it was time to switch to a menstrual cup.

The brand I had heard the most about was the Diva Cup, so that’s what I went with.

Before I get too deep into my personal experience, let me outline the benefits if you use a menstrual cup. 

  1. You only need one (or two if you want a backup)! Just make one purchase and it will last you a very very long time.  So it is a big money saver. 
  2. You can leave it in for up to 12 hours. So no stressing about making sure you have your purse stocked up before leaving the house.  
  3. No leaks. If inserted properly, it creates a seal, and nothing is escaping it! 

The biggest reason I hadn’t switched before was that I looked at them and thought, “that just doesn’t look comfortable.” 

I was expecting a somewhat rigid and harder plastic cup, but it’s not at all like that! The cups are usually made out of safe silicone that bends and flexes so you can fold it for easy insertion, and once it, you don’t even notice it anymore.

Then I also found out that there are actually two versions. One for women who have had a baby, and one for those who haven’t. So I was expecting since I had a baby that it would be bigger and bulky and cumbersome.

Again, I was surprised by just how comfortable it is. In fact, it is even MORE comfortable than a tampon for two reasons.

First, tampons tended to shift around in my vagina as they started absorbing liquid, sometimes in not so comfortable ways. Second, tampons don’t just absorb menstrual fluid, but also all the good fluid your vagina needs for balanced pH levels. Tampons left my vagina a bit dry and itchy after a few days.

But with menstrual cups, if you insert it correctly, you literally can’t tell it is there. At least I couldn’t. 

 

Now there’s the biggest issue for many women… Getting it in. (and dumping it)

That’s probably most women’s stumbling block in making the switch. This was actually way easier than I expected to. Yes, there is a learning curve, but I felt like a pro by about day three.

You’re going to get up close and personal with yourself, but you very quickly get used to that. When Aunt Flo finally left for the month I could remove the cup, clean it, and reinsert in about the time it takes to remove a tampon, unwrap and insert a new one. 

Plus, I had NO… let me say that again… NO leaks the entire week. That is a first! I always had at least one or two leaks with tampons.

When it comes to dumping it, I usually just do it over the toilet or while in the shower. No mess.

Oh, and there is one final awesome benefit. You can totally use the bathroom with it inserted! No need to take it out to go. How awesome is that???

Choosing to use a menstrual cup is a game-changer for your vagina! Seriously, I can’t say enough awesome things. Check out the Diva Cup and other menstrual cups below.

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I decided it’s time to embrace being fat. I’ve tried accepting my new mombod. I’ve tried changing it. I’ve tried to love it for giving me babies and nourishing them.

But what if I try something new and lean into being fat?

What if instead of loving myself and my body even though I’m fat, what if I can rewire my brain to actually see the beauty in my chubby little body?

Maybe I can find a way to embrace my fatness. Can I start seeing my body in the way classical painters saw the curves and dimples of the women they put on the canvas? Can I finally banish those images of Playboy bunnies and 90’s Britney as the ONLY ideals for women?

This is my challenge now. Not to love my body and embrace it for its utility, but to actually see the beauty in cellulite and stomach rolls, stretch marks and thighs with no gap.

I have spent the last 5.5 years either pregnant or breastfeeding. To say my body has gone through some changes would be an understatement. And did I mention that one of those pregnancies was twins?!

I’ve always been a bit chubby. Even when I was at my most fit I still had some cushion for the pushin’ because of how I’m built.

That’s right, even when I literally worked out 5-7 days a week as a high school athlete I had some cellulite on my thighs and my belly wasn’t flat.

Ever since I can remember, I’ve hated my body. Ever since I can remember having an opinion about the way I looked, I hated the way I looked because I was not perfect.

It seems silly to expect perfection of yourself, but perfectionism is something I struggle with. The worst part is that there was never any chance of me having a perfect body just by my genetics. I’m too short and too curvy and too muscular. I do have some big boobs, but they aren’t the perfectly round and perky ones everyone pays for.

And even now at 32 years old, I have been battling this perfectionism, or at least “good enough”-ism. There’s some mystical bar inside of my mind of what I should weigh and how I should look. If I don’t cross that threshold then I’m just not attractive enough or worthy enough.

Worthy… worthy of what? Love? Happiness? Life itself? All of it?

Ugh.

Guess what. I AM worthy of everything and anything. My worthiness, and frankly my sexiness, is NOT dependent on some ideal dress size.

I beautiful and hot just as I am.

Not only that, but I’m actually healthier being fatter.

You this story has a before and after that seems a little backwards at first glance. My “before” from 2018 is a thinner me, and my “after” from the other day is a more chubby and fat version of me.

Why is that a good thing to be thinner? How can that be a good thing if I am healthier now?

For most of 2018, I was separated from my husband while we worked on ourselves and I had an existential crisis while caring for twin babies and a 3-year-old.

The stress led me to start smoking again, drinking a little more than I’d like to admit in the evenings once the kids were in bed, and not eating most of the time. (And not eating in a bad neglectful way, not a healthy intermittent fasting way.)

I wasn’t getting exercise besides chasing the kids around and was overall just neglecting my own physical needs.

Then last fall, my husband and I decided to give it another shot thankfully. I quit smoking, drink much less, and I eat a healthy diet.

Sure there are donuts that slip in there, but for the most part, I eat salads, home-cooked meals, smoothies, fresh juices, and lots of water. I also do intermittent fasting (the 16:8 method) mostly to help ease some issues like psoriasis, which has been super helpful in diminishing.

I also exercise nearly every single day by going on walks and making sure I get over 10k steps in.

But I have STILL gained about 20 lbs.

So you know what that says to me? That being fatter is actually healthier for me!

No matter how much I try to shake the feeling of inadequacy over this fat, the less happy I am. I don’t want to be worried about eating one of the chocolate chip pancakes I make for my kids. I want to eat the damn pancake and enjoy my life.

And if my family genetics are any clue, I’m probably just going to get fatter as I get older. Oh well. As long as I can keep up with my kids (and hopefully someday grandkids), and I FEEL good, then that’s more important than anything else.

For me, enjoying my life means embracing being fat. Not just accepting it, but learning to see myself as actually sexy, beautiful, and totally worthy because my value as a person isn’t based on a few extra pounds.

PS – I love following Meg Boggs for all things body positivity and mommyhood.

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Moms are under so much pressure to not just be the best mother possible, but to look like society’s idea of perfection while doing it. It can be really hard to both love ourselves exactly as we are while also wanting to be healthy and happy. Jai Murphy, certified health coach, shares her tips for weight loss for busy moms.

For full details be sure to listen to this episode of the MomUp Show, but here is a rundown of the best tips form Jai:

1. Hold yourself accountable. Find ways to make sure you follow through on your goals. She started by creating an Instagram account just for her weight loss goals and followed accounts that made her feed like a vision board.

2. Submerse yourself in learning. Be willing to dive into the deep end and learn all you can. As much as we wish we did, we don’t know everything. Having an openness to finding new ways to accomplish your goals is key.

3. Remember, YOU ARE WORTHY. Life isn’t perfect, you aren’t perfect, your body isn’t perfect… instead of bemoaning it though, let’s EMBRACE IT. Instead of getting bogged down in perfection just find small ways to love yourself today and just inch a little closer to your goals today than you were yesterday.

Being a mom is chaotic and exhausting. Jai is an inspiration not just because of her weight loss, but her commitment to herself while simultaneously nurturing and loving herself. Be sure to give yourself realistic expectations and enjoy the process. Your weight loss journey is yours and you get to determine what is best for you. Enjoy the ride mama, and hopefully the tips in this podcast for weight loss for busy moms will help you on the road.

Body Positive Health & Wellness Coach, Jai Murphy, is classically trained and certified as a Health Coach and has a degree in Health Administration. What sets Jai apart from most health coaches is her ability to bridge the gap between the worlds of those wanting to lose weight, those fighting to embrace body positivity, and the traditional health & fitness world.

Jai has lost over 200lbs naturally and is in the midst of her own inspirational health journey. Jai doesn’t just regurgitate what the textbooks say; she shows in real time how to implement the knowledge and changes into the good and the bad of real life. Her extensive and engaged audience across her various social media platforms get a front row seat to Jasmin’s journey as she navigates the crooked roads of motherhood and health.

Visit Jai at her website or on Instagram.

 

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10 Must-Read Mom Blogs with Tips for New Moms

If you're feeling overwhelmed by all those tips for new moms on all the mom blogs, this is for you. Here are 10 awesome blog posts from mom blogs I found to help you get started on your journey to becoming a new mama, with the best tips for new moms. Learn the old...

I’m Tired of Being a Stressed Out Mom

I’m Tired of Being a Stressed Out Mom

I never expected to fulfill the stressed out mom stereotype. The picture in my mind was of an earth goddess mama who was super zen and could calm any nerves with a whiff of some essential oils... but I was so wrong. I'm the stressed out mom even though my life is...

Peek Inside Our Montessori Style Playroom

Peek Inside Our Montessori Style Playroom

Keeping three kids entertained all day is rough, but since moving towards a Montessori style playroom, it is much simpler. Montessori style education was created by Maria Montessori in the early 1900's, and is still super popular today. I am by no means an expert in...

Tired of Tampons? Time to Use a Menstrual Cup

Tired of Tampons? Time to Use a Menstrual Cup

On the fence about whether you're ready to use a menstrual cup? Here's why I made the switch and never looked back! It can be a bit intimidating when you start thinking about if you want to use a menstrual cup, but once you get into it, it turns out to be so simple...

Minimalism with Kids: Small Changes for a Big Impact

Minimalism with Kids: Small Changes for a Big Impact

If you're drowning in clutter and ready to make a change towards minimalism with kids, this one is for you. Minimalism with kids IS possible, and with a few small tweaks, you can get started on the path. What is minimalism? It's doing with less so you can live a...

Sex After Kids: Tips to Get Your Freak on More

Sex After Kids: Tips to Get Your Freak on More

Having sex after kids can be a little tricky, and many people find that they are just not getting it in like they used to. Healing postpartum, busy schedules, the sheer exhaustion of having kids, and more can all lead to parents having just about zero sex after kids....

I’m That Mom Who Doesn’t Know How to Be Alone

I’m That Mom Who Doesn’t Know How to Be Alone

I used to laugh at those moms who said they wouldn't know what to do with alone time if they got... and now I'm one of them. After years of being waist-deep in diapers and breastmilk, my cousin and I decided to implement a quarterly moms' night away. So this morning I...

How to Survive Disney World with Toddlers

How to Survive Disney World with Toddlers

Some people might think I'm a few bricks short of a load for deciding to go to Disney World with Toddlers. That's toddlers plural, not a single toddler, but somehow I made the trek with my twin toddlers and preschooler, and we survived! (and loved it) Before I just...

Mom Shaming Sucks. Let’s Choose Mom Love Instead.

Mom Shaming Sucks. Let’s Choose Mom Love Instead.

As much as mom shaming is going on between moms, maybe it's mostly going on internally... What if we chose mom love for ourselves in the form of self-love, and then extended that to all mothers instead of mom shaming? A few days after I gave birth to my twins,...

My Twin Birth Story (Hospital Induction, No Epidural)

My Twin Birth Story (Hospital Induction, No Epidural)

My twin boys just turned 2 today, and it felt like the right time to share my twin birth story. This is the twin birth story of Sebastian Charles and Maximus James. When I found out I was pregnant in Early 2017, I was so excited to plan a totally natural water birth....

10 Time-Saving Productivity Tools for Moms

10 Time-Saving Productivity Tools for Moms

Are you a mama in need of some productivity tools so you can do #allthethings? These are my 10 favorites. One of the biggest challenges for moms is time. We don't have enough of it! So I've compiled my favorite time-saving products, and productivity tools for busy...

4 Month Sleep Regression: Baby Becomes a Demon

4 Month Sleep Regression: Baby Becomes a Demon

The 4 month sleep regression is one of the most dreaded phases of parenting. You've finally gotten the hang of this parenting thing, you think it's all smooth sailing, and then the 4 month sleep regression steps in to knock you off your parenting pedestal. It's...

Being Fat and Loving it Instead of Judging Myself

Being Fat and Loving it Instead of Judging Myself

I decided it's time to embrace being fat. I’ve tried accepting my new mombod. I’ve tried changing it. I’ve tried to love it for giving me babies and nourishing them. But what if I try something new and lean into being fat? What if instead of loving myself and my body...

Why is How Often Moms Shower a Hot Topic?

Why is How Often Moms Shower a Hot Topic?

I shared a heartfelt post on Facebook about the sacrifices and joys of being a mom, but what caught a lot of attention was a debate on how often moms shower. We joke about it, but it's usually true that moms shower less than non-moms, especially during those early...

Fourth Trimester: How One Mom Helps New Moms Thrive Postpartum

Fourth Trimester: How One Mom Helps New Moms Thrive Postpartum

There are so many ways in which modern society does not fully support new moms, especially during postpartum. So one mom decided to do something about it. When Lisa Chin began her journey of entrepreneurship, she thought about what she would pursue even if she didn't...

How to Make a Baby: Get Pregnant Faster

How to Make a Baby: Get Pregnant Faster

There's more to how to make a baby than the good old birds and bees talk you got as an adolescent. Many adults have knowledge gaps when it comes to trying to conceive, so let's fill them in so you can get pregnant faster. Have you been doing it like rabbits for months...

Things to Do With Toddlers to Beat Boredom

Things to Do With Toddlers to Beat Boredom

Running out of ideas of things to do with toddlers? Sometimes we get into a slump as kids grow and need to come up with new activities for toddlers as they grow. These toddler and mom-approved things to do with toddlers at home will stimulate their developing bodies...

Must-Try Foods for Picky Toddlers They’ll Actually Eat

Must-Try Foods for Picky Toddlers They’ll Actually Eat

If you're trying to get your little one to be more adventurous with their eating, these foods for picky toddlers are a great place to start! We all know what it's like to slave over a delicious and nutritious meal only for our little ones to push it away and stick...

Creating a Baby Registry on Amazon

Creating a Baby Registry on Amazon

The best thing new parents can do when shopping for their bundle of joy is creating a baby registry on Amazon. In this post we will talk about all the pro's and con's of creating a baby registry on Amazon and how to do it. But first, let's talk about what a baby...

Gratitude is the Attitude Moms Need + How to Get it

Gratitude is the Attitude Moms Need + How to Get it

Gratitude is the attitude many of us WANT to cultivate as a mom, but we have so much on our minds, and sometimes remembering how much we have to appreciate and be grateful for gets put on the backburner. While gratitude is the attitude we know we *should* be focusing...

What is Self-Care for Moms, and Why is it Important?

What is Self-Care for Moms, and Why is it Important?

Self-care for moms is more important than for most other people on the planet. Being a mom is like having 2.5 jobs, and a lot of us have jobs on top of that! When will we take self-care for moms seriously? There are countless memes about how moms are exhausted and...

Is Mom Guilt a Good Thing?

Is Mom Guilt a Good Thing?

We've all felt the mom guilt, haven't we? The mom guilt and the mom-shaming seems to be at epic levels, but have we ever stopped to consider if there might be some good to be found inside the messy mom guilt? The other day I posted on my personal Facebook profile...

Learn from a Child to Be a Better Parent

Learn from a Child to Be a Better Parent

We exepect our children to learn from us, but there is so much we can  learn from a child. Fyodor Dostoyevsky said, "The soul is healed by being with children," and nothing could be more true, even if having children is also one of the hardest things you can do it's...

Teaching Kids to Share is Hard, and I Don’t Force It

Teaching Kids to Share is Hard, and I Don’t Force It

Before having kids I thought I totally knew what teaching kids to share was all about, but now that I'm a parent it is a whole lot harder than I anticipated. Sometimes doing what's best doesn't fit into societal expectations, and that's what makes teaching kids to...

Vacationing with Kids: Is it Even Worth It?

Vacationing with Kids: Is it Even Worth It?

After spending 10 days driving from Pennsylvania to Orlando, FL for our very first Disney vacation as a family, I am starting to wonder, is vacationing with kids even worth it? It was just a few days after we got back from a recent trip to Disney World when I was...

30 Best Wooden Toys for Kids and Babies on Amazon

30 Best Wooden Toys for Kids and Babies on Amazon

If your kids (or you) are feeling a bit of sensory overload with all the colorful, plastic, and noisy toys, these 30 best wooden toys for kids and babies will simplify the playroom. Wooden toys for kids made out of natural woods bring a sense of peace and calm to play...

I Stopped Trying to Be a Perfect Mom to Be a Happy Mom

I Stopped Trying to Be a Perfect Mom to Be a Happy Mom

Raise your hand if you have ever felt like crap about yourself for not being perfect. 🙋🏻‍♀️ Me too. In fact, I've spent most of my life in a constant state of fear that everyone will find out that I am (GASP!) not perfect. On the surface, this sounds ridiculous. I...

Best Diaper Bag for Twins from Real Twin Parents

Best Diaper Bag for Twins from Real Twin Parents

We were on the hunt for the best diaper bag for twins. Our trusty old diaper bag has finally called it quits after five years of service, and it's now time to shop for a new one for the twins (plus an almost 5-year-old). My husband and I have scoured the webs for the...

Self-Care Ideas for Moms (From a Dad and Teacher)

Self-Care Ideas for Moms (From a Dad and Teacher)

These self-care ideas for moms are must-know if you are one of those people who craves alone time and doesn't know what to do with it when you get it! Ironically, it's a dad who is going to share some of these essential self-care strategies with us today. Taking care...

Why Breastfeeding is Important Beyond Health

Why Breastfeeding is Important Beyond Health

We could talk about the health benefits for mom and baby which most people point to, but there are other reasons to consider why breastfeeding is important. Breastfeeding is a complicated topic in mom culture today. While we are in a sort of renaissance when it comes...

Teaching Kids to Cook, Getting Started

Teaching Kids to Cook, Getting Started

Teaching kids to cook has a ton of benefits for parents and kids. While it may seem daunting to let your little ones take on the responsibility of helping prepare meals, it is totally doable. Most parents make sure that the entire kitchen is baby-proofed and safe for...

Mom Hack: Knowing Baby Developmental Leaps

Mom Hack: Knowing Baby Developmental Leaps

Dealing with cranky kids is rough, but if you want to take those extra fussy baby days in stride then knowing baby developmental leaps is essential! We've all been there. Our sweet little squish is the most calm and cool kid ever... until they're not. You wake up one...

5 Tips for How to Give Birth Naturally Without Pain

5 Tips for How to Give Birth Naturally Without Pain

Want to know how to give birth naturally without pain? Awesome! It IS possible to greatly reduce discomfort during birth. These are the five best ways. Before we dive into specific natural childbirth techniques for relaxation and feeling more comfortable in birth,...

What are the Baby Blues After Birth?

What are the Baby Blues After Birth?

One thing they never tell you about is the baby blues after birth. Sure, you’ve heard of postpartum depression, but the baby blues? It’s almost a little secret of postpartum that stays hidden... until you’re going through it. (Quick disclaimer: I am not a doctor. I'm...

Sleep Training Without Cry It Out Method

Sleep Training Without Cry It Out Method

Is sleep training without cry it out method even possible? It sounds like sleep training without cry it out method is a dream, but it can work! If you’ve been looking for an extremely gentle way to encourage sleep in your baby without the tears, this one’s for you....

How to Prepare for Twins, 5 Tips from a TwinMom

How to Prepare for Twins, 5 Tips from a TwinMom

Once you get past the shock of having twins, you can start to go a little bonkers with figuring out how to prepare for twins. To be honest, you will never be completely ready for becoming a twinmom, but these are the five best tips for how to prepare for twins.  ...