It is so easy to get overwhelmed and stressed out as a mom, am I right? The easiest way to combat it is to become more present and a more mindful mom to ditch the stress and chill the F out.
What does it even mean to be a mindful mom? Glad you asked. Let’s talk about how learning to practice mindfulness in your life has incredible benefits and it has personally helped me do everything from battle depression to quit smoking to totally rock motherhood.
What is mindfulness?
Mindfulness is basically to be aware of and IN the present moment.
But to get a little deeper, according to the Oxford dictionary, mindfulness is: “a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.”
Why is mindfulness important?
Mindfulness has been shown to decrease stress, help relationships, increase cognitive function, and be less emotionally reactive.
It’s so easy to get caught inside your own mind, inside negative thinking patterns, and lose touch with what is really going on in your world. Mindfulness helps you to get out of those thought patterns and more in touch with yourself and the world around you.
How mindfulness helps you be a chill mom (instead of angry mom)
You know how those little wildlings will just push that button of yours one too many times until you finally snap and yell at them? (We’ve all been there, many times…)
Practicing mindfulness helps you to control your responses to stress and your emotions. So instead of being ruled by your emotions, and the whims of tiny ones, you are in control.
So let’s dive into 3 simple ways to can be a more mindful mom. These are simple practices I use in my daily life that help me to be in the moment, let go of stress and worry, and be more present with my kids.
1. Slow down and focus on the little things
My kids eat an unbelievable amount of grapes. I think it’s collectively the favorite food in my home, and like any mom paranoid about safety, I quarter the grapes.
This means I spent a lot of my time standing at my kitchen island, quartering grapes.
I used to rush the process, just trying to get that task done so I could move onto something else from my to-do list.
But now, I take my time. I feel the way the squishy grapes feel under my fingers. I try to empty my mind of anything else besides the menial and simple task of cutting up grapes.
For many of us, sitting down and meditating for even a few minutes a day seems daunting or confusing. But just simply focusing completely on one small task that we do regularly is simple enough, right?
Think about one small task that you do daily that you can set as your time to get yourself present and let go of the day’s worries.
2. Use routines with your kids to be more “in the moment”
How often are you playing with your kids, reading them a book, going for a walk, or doing a million other little things with your kids, but your mind is a million miles away. Usually, thinking about all the things you need to get done, right?
Our brains need a break, mama.
I’ve created little pockets of time throughout the day and week for me to just be with my kids without worry about what I “should” be doing. The beauty of it is because I have crafted it into our routines, it IS what I “should” be doing. So it is easier to let go of everything else and just be there fully with them, embracing being a mindful mom.
For example, each morning I do a “circle” time with my kids. It is simple, consisting of singing a couple of little songs and reading some books, maybe a little lesson.
During this time I am doing nothing but completely engaging in these activities WITH my kids. So not only am I getting the benefit of being totally in the moment and present, but my kids are too!
So often we are distracted when our kids are vying for our attention. Creating time in your day/week to just be with them without anything else filling your mind is one of the best things you can do for them.
3. Detox from tech
Ever pick up your phone to check the weather, and 15 minutes later your deep into IG, and you didn’t even open the weather app?
We get easily distracted. I mean… our phones and the apps on them are specifically designed to distract us and trap us in them for as long as possible.
It’s not you, it’s them.
But there is something you can do about it.
Delete the apps from your phone and block the websites from your browser.
I am not so great at moderation. For me, I sometimes need to go cold turkey and completely abstain from something I am trying to cut back on, at least for a time.
I found that I was getting so caught up in Facebook. Not only was I spending too much time on the site scrolling mindlessly, but I was also letting it get to me psychologically and emotionally.
Of course, there is the comparison to others, but also, I had all these other people’s thoughts and ideas inside of my head, it was hard to discern what was mine and what was their’s from a post I read 5 minutes ago.
So I ditched it all.
I do check in on my blog pages and profiles, but I don’t do the scroll anymore. Feeds are off-limits to me. And I am SO MUCH HAPPIER AND PRESENT.
This is by far the BEST thing I have done to be a more mindful mom and get super present in my daily life.
Do what works for you
These are the three simple things I’ve done in my life to be a more mindful mom, but maybe you have other ideas? I’d love to hear what works for you to get rid of the mom stress, be more present, mindful, and happy.
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